Posts Tagged ‘positive mental attitude’

The One Element You Can Always Control

With the world spinning at a crazy pace, what can we actually control?  Probably not politics other than to exercise our right to vote.  Probably not the economy other than to pay close attention to our personal income and expenditures.  Probably not the weather.

What can we control?  We can control our own thoughts, words, actions and our personal attitude.

Improving relationships and peace

Key to better relationships

A bad attitude is like a flat tire.  Change it or you are not going very far, very fast or very smoothly.

Situations happen and not all of them are exactly the way we anticipated or desired.  We cannot always change what has happened but we can always control our attitude.  We have the right, the ability, and the responsibility to control our personal attitude.

We can choose to growl, grumble and complain – none of which will be likely to achieve any positive result for anyone, including ourselves.  We can choose to ignore it and hope that it goes away; that may work for an ostrich which sticks their head in the sand, but not highly recommended for humans.  We can choose to adopt the attitude of “what good can come from this?”

When you intentionally look for the good, you are far more likely to find it.   

You apply to refinance your house.  You go through all of the hoops, loops and mountain of paperwork with assurances that all is well and everything is going forward.  Days, weeks and perhaps a few months drag by only to be ultimately denied.  What can you do?  You can apply to another financial establishment, you can plead your case with this one, or you can go to work correcting whatever element caused you to be denied.  If your credit score was too low, start working on raising it.  If your income was low, find a way to earn more money.  You can adopt the attitude of being appreciative that they flagged you on the items to make your life better.  The situation is the same; it is your attitude which can find the positive now and for the future.

Adopt the same mindset for a big sale, relationship or promotion.  You may have had your heart set on the achievement.  You were already dreaming

Choose your attitude

Choose your attitude

about the future with as a fact.  Take a moment to adjust.  What good can come from this unexpected result?  Could it be that something better is just around the corner?  In any case what benefit is there to you or anyone else by adopting a negative “oh woe is me” attitude?  None.

What good can come from this? 

Though it may feel like it for a short time, no sale, relationship or promotion loss is fatal.

No matter what happens in your daily life, the one element you can always control is your attitude.

“People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.”  John C. Maxwell

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Create a legacy

Create a legacy

Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Beliefs Create Results

Believe in Yourself

Believe in Yourself

How strong is your belief in yourself and your business?  Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”  Bradley Whitford

Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affect your actions and your results.

Belief in Yourself

As a new business owner, it is only natural to have a few nervous moments and hesitations.  You have so many new learning

Grow into your goal

Grow into your goal

experiences all at once.  Your emotions probably run the gamut from extremely excited to puzzled to slightly scared and back to totally optimistic.  If you are like me when I started my first business, your emotions are on a constant roller coaster speeding up and slowing down while climbing and plunging simultaneously.  The one constant in all of that turbulence was the rock solid belief in the future of building a successful business.

Belief in yourself is the foundation of your business.  True, you have to have a solid company and a valuable product you know the marketplace wants, needs and will purchase.

As a team leader you not only have to maintain belief in yourself and your personal ability to continue building a successful business but you also have to work with your team members to help them maintain their belief in themselves and their future.

Life is interesting.  Stone wears away with water.  Wood rots.  People die.  Things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, and a belief endure.  The most fragile in substance is the most powerful and lasting.

Your belief in yourself is the most powerful.  Never let anything take that away from you.

You may have hesitations about how to use a certain software, or the best words to use in an ad, but those are only momentary questions.  Your belief in yourself and your ability to build a successful business remains intact regardless of these momentary hesitations.

Overcoming Monkey Chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

You know those voices in your head which say You can’t do that?  I’ve heard them and so have you.  That chatter is your doubts and fears trying to sabotage your dream.  You have heard them at various times in your life from the time you were quite small.  Those voices are trying to pull your confidence down and break your resolve to succeed.

Your thoughts are your beliefs and your fears doing battle.  Even in a time of crisis, your belief in yourself and your future must be victorious.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability.  It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”  Tony Robbins

So what can you do?

“Believe in yourself and stand for your dream.  Even in the midst of difficult times . . . you need to maintain the confidence and conviction that you can achieve what you want.”

Use the most powerful seconds of your entire day to your fullest advantage.  The first seventeen seconds after you awake from

Create Positive Energy

Create Positive Energy

an alpha sleep and the last few seconds before you drift off into an alpha sleep are the most powerful seconds of your entire day.  Those are the seconds when your subconscious mind is the most receptive to instructions.

What are your thoughts at those times?  How can you help yourself to create more powerful positive opening and closing thoughts?

Create positive habits.

  • Read a few lines of something inspiring, motivating and uplifting just before drifting off to sleep.
  • Read your affirmations or write your affirmations.
  • Look at your dream board.
  • Look at a picture of those you love.
  • Play some soothing music which creates pleasurable images in your mind.

Avoid

  • Watching the news. The media seems to sensationalize the negative events.
  • Watching a television program which contains violence.
  • Arguing with someone or working on something which is difficult or distressing.

If you do not currently engage in a routine which promotes positive final thoughts before drifting off to sleep, seriously consider changing your pre-sleep practices.

Awaking with positive thoughts and images takes a bit more effort, but it is possible.

  • Change your alarm to music. Energizing, soothing or your special song . . . what music you choose is not as important as how you feel when you hear that music.
  • Choose a recording of your children laughing.
  • Choose a recording of your mentor’s words of wisdom.

What you choose is what inspires, motivates and energizes you.

“Working hard is important, but there is something that matters even more . . . Believing in Yourself.”  Harry Potter

Focus on the positive

Focus on the positive

Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.  Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affects your actions and your results.

“Devote yourself to an idea.  Go make it happen.  Struggle on it.  Overcome your fears.  Smile.  Don’t forget: this is your dream.”

When you start your day with positive thoughts and end your day with positive thoughts, you enhance the probability of a positive day.  String enough positive days together and you will build a successful business and a successful life.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Beliefs Create Results

Believe in Yourself

Believe in Yourself

How strong is your belief in yourself and your business?  Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”  Bradley Whitford

Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affect your actions and your results.

Belief in Yourself

As a new business owner, it is only natural to have a few nervous moments and hesitations.  You have so many new learning

Grow into your goal

Grow into your goal

experiences all at once.  Your emotions probably run the gamut from extremely excited to puzzled to slightly scared and back to totally optimistic.  If you are like me when I started my first business, your emotions are on a constant roller coaster speeding up and slowing down while climbing and plunging simultaneously.  The one constant in all of that turbulence was the rock solid belief in the future of building a successful business.

Belief in yourself is the foundation of your business.  True, you have to have a solid company and a valuable product you know the marketplace wants, needs and will purchase.

As a team leader you not only have to maintain belief in yourself and your personal ability to continue building a successful business but you also have to work with your team members to help them maintain their belief in themselves and their future.

Life is interesting.  Stone wears away with water.  Wood rots.  People die.  Things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, and a belief endure.  The most fragile in substance is the most powerful and lasting.

Your belief in yourself is the most powerful.  Never let anything take that away from you.

You may have hesitations about how to use a certain software, or the best words to use in an ad, but those are only momentary questions.  Your belief in yourself and your ability to build a successful business remains intact regardless of these momentary hesitations.

Overcoming Monkey Chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

You know those voices in your head which say You can’t do that?  I’ve heard them and so have you.  That chatter is your doubts and fears trying to sabotage your dream.  You have heard them at various times in your life from the time you were quite small.  Those voices are trying to pull your confidence down and break your resolve to succeed.

Your thoughts are your beliefs and your fears doing battle.  Even in a time of crisis, your belief in yourself and your future must be victorious.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability.  It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”  Tony Robbins

So what can you do?

“Believe in yourself and stand for your dream.  Even in the midst of difficult times . . . you need to maintain the confidence and conviction that you can achieve what you want.”

Use the most powerful seconds of your entire day to your fullest advantage.  The first seventeen seconds after you awake from

Create Positive Energy

Create Positive Energy

an alpha sleep and the last few seconds before you drift off into an alpha sleep are the most powerful seconds of your entire day.  Those are the seconds when your subconscious mind is the most receptive to instructions.

What are your thoughts at those times?  How can you help yourself to create more powerful positive opening and closing thoughts?

Create positive habits.

  • Read a few lines of something inspiring, motivating and uplifting just before drifting off to sleep.
  • Read your affirmations or write your affirmations.
  • Look at your dream board.
  • Look at a picture of those you love.
  • Play some soothing music which creates pleasurable images in your mind.

Avoid

  • Watching the news. The media seems to sensationalize the negative events.
  • Watching a television program which contains violence.
  • Arguing with someone or working on something which is difficult or distressing.

If you do not currently engage in a routine which promotes positive final thoughts before drifting off to sleep, seriously consider changing your pre-sleep practices.

Awaking with positive thoughts and images takes a bit more effort, but it is possible.

  • Change your alarm to music. Energizing, soothing or your special song . . . what music you choose is not as important as how you feel when you hear that music.
  • Choose a recording of your children laughing.
  • Choose a recording of your mentor’s words of wisdom.

What you choose is what inspires, motivates and energizes you.

“Working hard is important, but there is something that matters even more . . . Believing in Yourself.”  Harry Potter

Focus on the positive

Focus on the positive

Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.  Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affects your actions and your results.

“Devote yourself to an idea.  Go make it happen.  Struggle on it.  Overcome your fears.  Smile.  Don’t forget: this is your dream.”

When you start your day with positive thoughts and end your day with positive thoughts, you enhance the probability of a positive day.  String enough positive days together and you will build a successful business and a successful life.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Strategies for Goal Achievement

Would you like to improve your goal achievement?  Goal setting is easy.  Goal achievement is the ultimate victory.

Write it down.  Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants; can’ts into cans; dreams into plans; and plans into reality.  Don’t just think it…ink it!”

Achieving your goals is important.  The process of achieving them and the person you become in getting there is everything.

See your goal as achieved

See your goal as achieved

3 Strategies for Goal Achieving

  1. Adopt and Maintain a “Can Do” Attitude

 

A positive mindset is the foundation for every successful action.  Success flows first from an emotional basis.  You don’t feel good because you achieve your goals; you reach your goals because you are in a positive emotional mindset.

 

You have heard that you always receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  If you believe in yourself and you are grateful for what you have, you will attract more.  If you are grouchy, pessimistic, depressed, discouraged and “down in the emotional dumps,” you are totally focused on the negative.  Whatever attitude you choose will attract more of the same. You can choose to spiral upward or downward.

 

Now for me, that is an easy choice.  I prefer success.  One of the keys to goal achieving is adopting and maintaining a positive mindset.  You may not have control of everything and everyone in the world, but you always have the ability to control your personal mindset.

 

Challenges occur to all of us.  We are occasionally disappointed in events, circumstances or people (that includes our own personal performance).  We can choose to be emotionally down or we can choose to say “What good can come from this?” and find the potential good.  We can choose to brush it off and say “I’ll do better tomorrow.”  When unexpected results cross our path, we can choose a positive or a negative attitude.

 

When something happens which we did not anticipate or want, we can choose the downward attitude spiral or choose to do a mindset shift.  I prefer success.  I choose a “can do” attitude.

 

  1. Simple Little Success Boosters  Motivating Passwords

 

Change your passwords.  We know with cyber-crime on the rise, it is smart to change our passwords every quarter.  Have a different password for each online account.  I know it is harder to remember the passwords when each one is different, but it reduces the risk of invasion of your accounts.  I use a formula for my passwords and change all of them every quarter.

 

As long as you are changing the passwords anyway, why not change them to something which motivates you?  Pick a word, phrase, aroma, place, sound or sight which lifts your spirits.  Maybe it is a private family phrase or something the kids said when they were small which always brings a smile to your face.  Typing that word as your password (even having to look up the password in order to type it) can reset your attitude to a positive.

 

Use the events of your daily life to continually bring your attitude up to a more positive level.  Accomplish a double purpose of protecting your identity and improving your attitude all at once.  I prefer success.

 

  1. Visualization

 

See Yourself Hit the Target

See Yourself Hit the Target

You know the advantages of visualization and meditation.  You know that your subconscious is a powerful force working to bring you more of whatever you are thinking.  The predominant thought running through your mind acts as an order to your subconscious mind.  The subconscious is powerful but not able to decide what is good for you.  It can only respond to your predominant thoughts.  If you are focusing on, seeing and believing something, the subconscious is programmed to make it come true.

We each possess an awesome power that most of us have not been taught how to use effectively.  Super star athletes use it, mega millionaires use it and top producers use it.  That power is Visualization.  Visualization triggers the subconscious to bring your thoughts into reality.

Visualization works hand in hand with the subconscious mind and the law of attraction.  They are a triple force working together to bring you whatever you are focusing on.

You know about the Law of Attraction.  It was featured in The Secret and numerous other books in the 1980s and 1990s.  There have even been network marketing companies based on the law of attraction.  It is a law, just as gravity is a law.  How do you direct the powerful combination of visualization, subconscious mind and the law of attraction to assist you in achieving your goals?

Activate the Law of Attraction through Visible Images

  1. Picture your goal as achieved. Look at it as if you were watching a movie and you are the star.  You are seeing yourself
    Celebrate Victory

    Celebrate Victory

    in living color with all five senses activated; you are picturing a live scene.  This is real.  Feel the emotions you will feel when you have achieved your ultimate goal.  See the ones you care about beaming with pride for you.  Hear the cheering.  Savor the sweet taste of victory.

 

Hold that image in its entirety in your mind.  Breathe it in and allow it to permeate every cell in your body.  Feel all of the emotions of pleasure.  You have worked and earned this victory.  You have achieved your ultimate goal.  Ingrain it so completely into your being that you can recall it completely at a second’s notice.

 

  1. Create a vision board. Draw or cut out pictures which symbolize your goals.  Post the pictures and words on the board.  Place it where you will see it constantly.  The vision board works similar to the chart on the wall; they both focus your attention and positive expectation of goal achievement.

Take a mental screen shot of your vision board.  Take a photo of the vision board and use it as the screensaver on your smart phone.

  1. Create affirmations of your goals as already achieved. Write them on index cards. Paint them on your bathroom mirror.  Post them on the refrigerator.  Create screensavers or images on your computer screen.  Post them as sticky notes around your desk.

 

Write every affirmation in the positive.  “I am so grateful that. . .”  “I am so excited to be . . .”  “I feel so thrilled that . . .” Adopt the attitude of knowing that your goals could and did come true.  See each goal in your mind as accomplished.

Congratulations

Congratulations

“Nothing is impossible.  The word itself says I’m possible.”

Goal setting is important, but goal achievement is the ultimate victory.  Three strategies to enhance your goal achievement are: adopting and maintaining a positive attitude, using simple success boosters such as changing your passwords, and visualizing your goals through mental/emotional movies, vision boards and affirmations.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Whine or Perform an Attitude Adjustment

Sometimes you have to reach deep and climb high to make an attitude adjustment.

Sometimes you have to reach deep and climb high to make an attitude adjustment.

How many times have you felt an inner GRRR and realized that perhaps an attitude adjustment was in order?  If you are like me, probably more times than you care to admit.

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it.”

You cannot always adjust the situation to your preferences, but you can always adjust your attitude about the situation.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  Wayne Dyer

Have you ever had your bank account, email, or credit card hacked?  Me too.  It is a genuine pain in the schedule.  Every time you turn around there is one more adjustment to be made to set things right.  You can whine, complain, feel sorry for yourself or blame others.  None of these will make any change whatsoever in the situation or what needs to be done to correct it.  You can say “This is not a good time for this.  I don’t have time to deal with this right now.”  Okay, I get it.  Be honest, there is never a good time for a hacker to invade your life.

I recently had a hacker get through the online banking system enough to change my personal contact information in one account.  After the initial “Oh no” (or something to that effect), I said “Thank you to the fraud department at Wells Fargo that they caught it so fast.  The fraud department was on it instantly before any money could be transferred.”  Yes it was a pain to change the automatic deposits, automatic payments, order new checks, and reconcile all of the transactions.  The good news was that they were my transactions and not those of the hacker.

Attitude choices:  Whine, Complain, Get Frustrated, Get Angry or Get Busy and Get it Done.

“I cannot change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”  Jimmy Dean

Life is a continual adjustment of internal feelings to external situations.

Building a successful business is never a smooth, easy, gentle learning curve.  The challenges and the way you face them either give you ulcers or a few more stars in “Entrepreneurship Heaven.”  Maybe it is a throwback to elementary school, raising a family or . . . but I prefer stars.

“It’s not the heavy load that breaks you, it’s the way you carry it.”

There was a well-known speaker (temporary memory lapse on her name) who lugged suitcases stacked on top of suitcases, back packs and dragging a cart with more boxes on to the stage.  Each case and box was labeled: anger, guilt, blame, pity party, whine, and every other imaginable complaint.  Her theme was that you can mentally and emotionally drag all of that with you all day every day or you can release it and go forward with your life.

Personally, conducting an attitude adjustment is far easier than dragging that useless, unproductive baggage.

“When we put things off until some future – probably mythical – laterland, we drag the past into the future.  The burden of yesterday’s incompletions is a heavy load to carry.  Don’t carry it.”  It’s far easier on your shoulders, back and spirit to conduct an attitude adjustment.

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Unconsciously Harming Our Families

We are unconsciously harming our families.  Almost a decade ago I met Deanna Latson, devilGoToHealth.com.  Pronounce that carefully.  Deanna speaks on college campuses and organizations throughout the world.  Her focus is eating healthy and living in a healthy environment.

 

Even though I knew she was right and made minor changes to my diet: eliminating my daily diet Pepsi, cutting back on dairy (She advocates eliminating cheese; I’ve cut back considerably, but not totally eliminated cheese.), and eliminating as many processed foods as possible.  Even though my diet was healthy and my exercise routine was extensive, these changes improved my quality of life.

 

The major impact hit when my small grandson was diagnosed with Celiac.  Now the toxins in life became personal.  Even though it had been around me, I had not noticed how many of my friends and their family members suffered from various allergies and diseases – all of which were intensified by using harmful household products.

 

New awareness awakened the information Deanna had presented years earlier and increased my desire to locate a source of healthy household products which were convenient to purchase and economical without sacrificing quality.  After about six months of searching, the answer finally appeared.

 

Amazing how something can be in front of you for years, but it has to become personal before the total impact hits.  If you have listened to the Tread Climber commercial, you heard, “You could have changed your life way earlier.” I feel the same way about the toxins.

 

My life has improved, my grandson’s life has improved and the lives of so many of my friends have improved.  All because of a wake-up call and taking action.  To my delight, the cost is actually less than the harmful products.  Who knew?  If I can help you by sharing my research, please contact me.

Fabulous 5 Daily Activities

Taxes are going up.  ObamaCare continues to roll out more complications, contingencies and costs.  The

Push past emotional blocks

Push past emotional blocks

dollar is losing its former high status in the world economy.  Our national debt is rising.  Is all the news doom and gloom?  No.  As entrepreneurs, we still have a business to run; ideally running that business at a profit.  What can we do?

 

Running Your Business? 

 

How many times have you reached a point in your business when you experienced a bit of a slump in profits?  What did you do about it?

 

During the initial growth days of Mountain Castles, I was focused from morning until night calling on Realtors, devising new ways to attract clients and servicing the clients already under contract.  The business of running the business soon consumed all of the time and active personal marketing dwindled.

 

We know what happens when marketing decreases.

 

What Worked Before?

 

Go back to the basics.  What activities were you doing when your business worked the best?  Chances are that you were doing one or more of the “Fabulous 5” Daily Activities.

 

  1. 1.      Daily action plan

 

At least the night before write out the most important tasks to be accomplished the next day and exactly what time you would dedicate to each activity.  Follow through.  (My preference is to lay out my entire week on Sunday for the upcoming week.  Each primary activity has its time slot.   Non-business emails and phone calls are ignored during that time.  Turn your phone off and minimize your email program.)

 

  1. 2.      Prioritize Activities According to Goals

 

If the activity will advance you toward the achievement of your goals, do it.   If the activity takes you away from your primary goal, eliminate it.

 

Are your goals written?  Thoughts about goals rather than written goals are merely wishes.

 

Goals should be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely).

 

Specific Goal – weigh 120# by June 30, 2013

 

Measurable – scales do not lie (no fair standing with one foot on the floor or in the air.)

 

Attainable – if the current weight is 130, a reduction of 10 pounds in 105 days is certainly attainable.  If the current weight is 230, that goal would not be attainable without surgery.

 

One or two pounds reduction per week would certainly be within reason.  Gradual weight reduction is more likely to stay off.  Note, I did not say lose weight; if you lose it, you may find it again.

 

Relevant – A goal to weigh less at precisely the time you open a chocolate shop would be a conflict.

 

Timely – The specific goal included a completion date.  Setting checkpoints along the route is advisable.  In the example above, the weight reduction was one pound every ten days; specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely.

 

Analyze each of your goals according to this formula.  Since it is difficult to go in multiple directions at the same time, it is recommended to set a maximum of three main goals with every minor goal tying directly to one of the three major goals.  In the weight loss example, it could be exercising three times per week.

 

  1. 3.      Income Producing Activity

 

Lead generation and following up on leads fills the sales funnel.  It is a simple progression – marketing – leads – follow up with leads – sales – delivery of goods or services – customer service – profit – repeat orders.

 

Regardless of the marketing method: paid online marketing, social media, printed marketing, or personal contact marketing, leads must be generated.  Income producing activities are critical every day.

 

  1. 4.       Personal Development

 

Customers always relate to you first and the product second.  Unless you are the only possible source for the product and they desperately have to have the product, buyers purchase from the salesperson who emotionally connects with them.  Patricia Fripp, first female president of the National Speakers Association said, “You only have to connect with your audience emotionally if you want them to remember you and what you said.”

 

Personal development is knowing yourself.  Celebrate what is going well in your life and constantly strive to improve other elements one by one.  Personal development is key to a peaceful and productive life.

 

Journaling, meditating, listening to educational/inspirational/thought-provoking material, reading books and magazines with informative content and attending motivational seminars all enhance the opportunity for personal development.  Invest in yourself by completing the exercises in Emotional Ice Water.  The best information in the world will not help you unless you take action and apply it to your life.

 

  1. 5.      Cultivate an Attitude of Success

 

When you believe in yourself, believe the best in others, associate with positive minded leaders, and take action on those constructive thoughts, you will progress.  Bob Moawad said, “You can’t make footprints in the sands of time if you are sitting on your butt.”

 

Think positive, take action and achieve your goals.

When Life Gives You Lemons

 

When life gives you lemons, what do you do?  Problems, challenges, situations, adversity and catastrophes

Positive Mental Attitudes yield Positive Results

come into our lives from time to time.  Those are the lemons of life.

 

Jim Rohn, noted business philosopher, said “We must all suffer one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.  The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”  Bottom line is we will all suffer.  We will all encounter obstacles in life.

 

It’s not about what happens to us, but what we do about it.

 

If you have never experienced adversity, you are extremely fortunate, very young or in denial.

 

Your adversity may come in the form of relationships, money, your career or your health.

 

What do you do when life hands you a bitter lemon?  Do you go running to the pantry and eat a box of chocolates, down a bottle of alcohol, go for a run, cry, or throw china against the wall?  Each individual has their own stress release method.  Some will blame others.  Some will choose violence against themselves or others.  Some will turn to drugs.  Some will turn to exercise.

 

Tension builds and seeks a release valve.  Have you ever observed a teakettle?  As the water heats, it builds up pressure until the steam pours forth.  Releasing tension is as necessary for humans as it is for the teakettle.  The difference is how we choose to expel the pressure and how long we allow it to continue to build and pour forth steam.

 

When I first started network marketing, I was a total disaster.  I did everything wrong.  It took me eight months to make my first sale; it was an Australian two up system so I still did not make any money (you have to give up your first two sales – hence the “two up” system.)  Finances were beyond tight by the time I finally figured it out and made money.

 

During those eight months, it was a struggle to maintain confidence and enthusiasm to keep working.  Unfortunately there are far too many jobless Americans right now facing exactly the same issue.  The extension in unemployment benefits will help, but not enough to maintain the pre-unemployment lifestyle.

 

It’s not what happens to you, but what you do.

 

You know all of the steps to take to seek work.  Regardless of taking all of the right steps toward employment, unless you exhibit a productive and positive mental attitude, your attitude  will reflect negatively in the interview.  What actions are you taking to maintain your positive mental attitude?  You know if you go into the interview with a defeated or a defiant attitude, the interviewer will pick up on it and you will be back on the street.

 

Start writing in a journal every night or every morning.  Write a list of every positive skill and qualification you have to offer an employer.  Don’t look back at yesterday’s list, keep doing this every day.  Write either immediately upon your eyelids fluttering open in the morning or the last task before you fall asleep at night.  Your subconscious mind is most easily programmed when you first emerge from an alpha sleep or just before you drift into an alpha sleep.  The more you focus on positives, the more positives will appear in your life.

 

Troublesome relationships, employment and health all follow this same formula.  When you concentrate on your strengths, what you have to offer, you increase your probability of attracting exactly what you desire.  Concentrate on negatives and you will attract more negatives into your life.  You have the ability to choose.

It’s not what happens to you, but what you do.  Think positive and take action.  It’s not a fairy tale, a positive mental attitude and positive action yields positive results.

 

A friend of mine said, “When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over.”

 

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Reflections and Realizations 2012-2013

 

Commit to making 2013 even better than 2012

Looking back over 2012, what were your highlights?  Being a glass half full and optimistic person, I prefer to focus on the positives.  Yes, I learn from the negatives as well as the positives.  Since it is a known fact that we always receive more of whatever we give our time, energy and focus, I prefer to concentrate on the positive.

 

What were the personal highlights of 2012?  What did you learn about yourself?

2012 was an eventful year for me.  My first book, Emotional Ice Water was published.  The comments about how much it helped people to get out of their own way and start truly living life to the fullest warmed my heart.  One man very close to me said, “It was better than I thought it would be; that could be a compliment.  I’ve decided to take it as a left-handed compliment.

 

Even though it was an entire year ahead of schedule, I became President of the Castle Pines Rotary club in July.  With the unexpected turmoil which caused my early ascension, it has been a bumpy road but we are making progress.  I jumped in with both feet up to the top of the curls and relate 100% to the values and mission of Rotary.

 

A few unexpected financial events have made a wonderful and truly appreciated upswing in income toward the end of 2012.  That is never a bad turn of events.  Nice way to end the year.

 

 Which relationships meant the most to you in 2012?

Once again, the deepening friendships with Rotarians have astounded and pleased me.

In fact, the genuine outpouring of caring from friends and my sons has truly been heartwarming.  I can’t say enough loving words about my sons.  Wow, am I fortunate.  I’ve laughed that I’m not certain if the fine men they have become is because of me or in spite of me, but I’m grateful nonetheless.

 

What was one of the biggest challenges you faced this year and how did you handle it?

For me as for many Americans, the challenge was endeavoring to keep the income above the outgo.  There are conflicting points of view as to whether the economy is getting better or if the Band-Aid on America’s debt will pull loose revealing a deep gash.

 

 What did you do for fun in 2012?  What was one of your fondest memories?

One of the highlights of my year is always related to my grandsons.  Those adorable little guys have Gamma wrapped securely around their little hands.  For instance at 5 am on Christmas morning both little guys pounce on the bed and say, “Up Gamma, you’re missing Christmas.”  Sleepy-eyed but smiling, we all head upstairs to the Christmas tree.

 

Even though the questions and answers could continue, the importance is reflecting on 2012 in a positive way and seeking the wisdom to commit to making 2013 even better than 2012.  Not just commit, but follow through.

 

When we build positives on positives, the world becomes a happier and more fulfilling place.

Celebrate Progress

We all have obstacles to overcome.  Even though the glass ceiling is not as impenetrable as it was in earlier decades,

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women still have to prove their intelligence, high work ethic and innovative ideas in order to be regarded as qualified for a major leadership role.  The old quote by Theodore Reik still holds true, “In our civilization, men are afraid that they will not be men enough and women are afraid that they might be considered only women.”

No, this is not gender bashing, it is simply reality.

 

Glass Ceiling

 

The term “glass ceiling” was coined in the 1970s.  The belief was that women had to outperform a man in order to get ahead.  We have made remarkable strides in the last 40 years.

 

What do I know about a glass ceiling?  You know me now as a successful entrepreneur but in 1972 in Detroit, MI, it was a different story.  Working in a Goodyear Tire dealership as a very feminine lady was a daily challenge.

 

One day the district manager came into my office.  After I resumed sitting at my desk, he remained standing and clearly stared down at me.  I finally said, “Excuse me but my face is up here.”  With a grin, he replied, “I want to be certain you knew I noticed.”  Yes, I was wearing a sweater but it was certainly not a low neckline.  The inference was obvious that I was to be regarded more as female than as an executive.

 

It took years of repeated incidents to finally prove I was in the position due to capability rather than gender-based favors.  Even then the Motor City was not ready for a female to be treated as an equal in such a male-dominated industry.  No matter how capably the job was performed, I was still regarded as only a woman.

 

No matter how many times the top of my curls bumped the glass ceiling, it did not crack.  If I had acted, dressed or spoke like one of the guys, all authority would have been out the window.  At least they eventually acted and spoke with respect, if not with acceptance of my authority and position.

 

History – Female Pioneers

 

Those who came before paved the way.  These are a few of many known and unknown.

 

Lucy Stone (1818-1893) was the first woman in the United States to earn a college degree.  She organized the first national women’s rights convention.

 

Susan B. Anthony (1820-1906) has her picture on an American coin for her efforts in giving women the right to vote.

 

Clara Barton (1821-1910) founded the American Red Cross.

 

Margaret Chase Smith (1897-1995) in 1964 was the first woman to be nominated for President of the United States by a major party

 

Sandra Day O’Connor (1930 – ) was the first woman to serve as a justice on the US Supreme court.

 

Sally K. Ride (1951 –  ) was the first American woman in space.

 

Sarah Palin (1964 – ) was governor of Alaska and Vice Presidential candidate for the Republican Party in the 2008 presidential campaign.  She is a published author, mother of five and a groundbreaker for women in politics.

 

Celebrate Progress

 

There are now 20 female CEO’s at the helm of America’s largest companies.  It is only four percent, but it is still a noteworthy record.  IBM led the charge with Ginni Rometty.  Wal-Mart followed with Rosalind Brewer, not only the first female but the first African-American as well.

 

There are still obstacles to overcome.  It is important to celebrate the progress women have made in previous decades to bring us to this point.

 

Who knows when it will happen, but we will have a woman President of the United States.

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