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Are You a Manager or a Leader?

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

Does the same style work for every situation?  No.  Nor does one style work for every person.


Managers have subordinates and leaders have followers.  Which one do you choose?  It depends on the people involved and the objective to be accomplished.


In a recent article in Under30CEO, Matt Wilson declares that to reach maximum success, a CEO must be brilliant and difficult.  He touts the style of Trump, Barbara Corcoran of Shark Tank and Ari Gold of Entourage.  Matt advocates “Stop being nice; start demanding perfection.”   Ask for what you want and you will probably receive it.


Granted this style has proven to work for powerful executives who have built and are building empires.  In the proper circumstances, it can be extremely effective.  Does this style work in every situation?  My opinion is “No, it may not be appropriate in all instances.”




When Dan first took a group of 18 year old delinquents backpacking into the Mt. Zirkel wilderness, his role was to guide them on the 21 day trek, tell them how to set up their tent, how to prepare a meal in the wilderness and how to survive in unfamiliar mountain circumstances.  The rules were simple:  “Here is how you set up the tent and prepare your meal.  Tonight I will cook for you.  Tomorrow you set up your own tent and cook for yourself.”

This was clearly an authoritarian managerial style situation.  Dan’s knowledge exceeded that of the group.  In that situation he needed to establish his authority and expertise immediately.  The teenagers were on the trek to learn discipline and teamwork with each other.

Contrast that situation to a leadership environment.


The President of a volunteer organization such as a Rotary club where the members are highly educated and successful individuals requires the skills of a leader, not a manager.  The members are volunteers rather than subordinates.  Demanding perfection and compliance of a volunteer would be ineffective.

In the case of a volunteer organization comprised of executives who are all accustomed to being “in charge,” the authoritarian approach would be met with resistance at best.  This group would require more of a participatory leadership styleThe club would decide which fundraising activities and which service projects the members wished to support.

Differences between a leader and a manager.

Leaders are more charismatic, transformational and visionary.  Leaders are charting the path for a new direction where managers are smoothing the ruts in the current path.  Managers are more authoritative, task oriented and results driven.


The challenge for the executive may be in making the switch from managerial style to leadership style depending on the situation.  This can be problematic for the leader and the followers if the leadership style is not handled properly.  Too much structure and direction without a balance of enjoyment and the members stop participating.  Not enough structure and direction and nothing is accomplished.

John Maxwell, former minister and leadership guru, addressed this in his 5 Levels of LeadershipThe leader of the Rotary club would be leading by permission since the group elected the member to become President; however, it is up to the leader to inspire the group to choose to follow.  A title alone is not sufficient.

Recap and analysis,

Imagine the participatory style with rebellious youth?  The result would have been chaos, defiant attitudes, and perhaps uninformed and untrained individuals lost in the woods.  This would be more than ineffective leadership, it would be dangerous.  The initial phase required authoritarian management.  As the group progressed in cooperation and competence, the management style could ease into a less structured style.  It was amazing how much more cooperative their attitude became as they realized the benefits of team work.

The purpose of the volunteer organization is to serve, but unless the group is also having fun, members will not attend.  This is more of a fine line for the leader because it requires fun, inspiration and participation in conjunction with organization and coordination.  How much structure is required to accomplish tasks and yet how relaxed a structure is required in order to maintain enthusiasm and active participation?

In many cases, the leadership role may be more challenging than the managerial role.

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Effective Leadership Skills

Lead, follow or step aside

Examine the root word “Lead” carefully.


L – Learning all the information possible from great books, live seminars, cd recordings and personal interaction with other positive attitude, forward-thinking successful people.


E – Examine your own internal thoughts, beliefs, words and actions.  Are you allowing old negative programming to hold you back from achieving all of your dreams and goals?


A – Achieve all of your goals by focusing your energy on the target.  When you focus on a goal and direct all of your activity toward that one specific objective for as long as it takes to accomplish it, your success is guaranteed.


D – Delegate just enough responsibility to your team members or followers to develop their potential to achieve their own goals and lead others.


When you learn, do a comprehensive internal self-examination, and focus on achieving all of your own goals, you now have a path in place to guide others to duplicate you’re achievements.  You can not guide someone else to accomplish things you have not achieved.  There is as lack of credibility when you tell others how to do something you have never done.  There is never a long line to ask the advice of the person at the bottom of the success ladder.


First achieve the goals and then provide the system for others to duplicate your results.  The old saying of “fake it until you make it” just does not have credibility.  So you ask, what to do until you do have proven results of your own.  Edify your boss or your supervisor or your coach and mentor.  Point to their success until you have success of your own.  Always, always be honest.  Do not claim to have positive results until you do.


Learn to celebrate every little victory.  Record each small victory in a journal and celebrate each one.  These small accomplishments will grow into bigger achievements.  Your experience learning and growing will actually assist you in effective leadership.  People relate to you and your challenges as they progress through their own challenges.

Being honest about your leadership journey also adds to your credibility.  None of us started at the top.  Read our stories; we faced challenges and setbacks as well as victories on our way to personal leadership.


I do not believe there is or ever has been one effective leader who has not “paid his or her dues.”  Every one of us has examined ourselves and our leadership thoughts many times.  We examined and re-examined our leadership styles.  We evaluated our personal leadership and our leadership skills over and over.  We made adjustments and adjusted the adjustments.


Only after walking the path ourselves were we able to direct someone else through the same system to reach their own personal success.  First we made the journey through the success minefield, then we were qualified to guide others through that minefield to their own personal success.


Even now, after they have achieved their goals, effective leadership demands a constant process of adjusting to modern innovations.  Business, success nor leadership stands still.  Each one remains a moving target.  In order to effectively delegate these skills and techniques, we must continue to focus and keep our own leadership skills sharp.


Learn, examine, achieve and delegate.  You must follow each and every step in order and then keep repeating the cycle.  Leadership is constantly evolving and the best and more effective leaders never take themselves or their followers for granted.  Effective leadership skills are a precious commodity.  Delegate them to others and the world will constantly improve.  Effective leadership is a privilege, an honor and a responsibility.


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