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Your Thoughts are Your Key to Success

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.  It is the thinking that makes it so.”  Henry Ford


Do you want more profit in 2014?  If you are like me, the answer is “yes.”  If we are not focused on making a profit in our business, we do not have a business; we have an expensive, time-consuming hobby.




How do we increase our profit?  Profit increases by providing excellent value to our customers.  As the Geico commercial states, we all know that fact.   Do you know that you possess a critical control of your profit?  The focal point of your success plan must always be your positive thoughts.  Your thinking determines more of your success than you may have given it credit.


When I started Mountain Castles Property Management, fellow Steamboat business owners and even friends and family told me that a property management company specializing in single family homes would never succeed.  Call it naïve, foolish or stubborn; I believed Mountain Castles would succeed.


What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”  Napoleon Hill


Mountain Castles did succeed.  Every time doubts would creep in to my thought pattern I immediately refocused my thoughts on what was going right and the ultimate goal.  The unwavering success plan was positive thoughts of success based on “How can I?”


Business success and profit are the initial focus of most successful business people.  At some point, we realize that it is not all about the money and success.  The most important factor is the person we become in the process.  Positive thoughts and a mindset of constant self-improvement result in more success in every aspect of our lives.


When something seemingly negative happens, transform the thought immediately into “What good can come from this?”  Almost by magic, something good does come for it.


You get what you think about most of the time. When you focus on good thoughts and believe good will result, it does.  When you focus on what you don’t want or lack of what you want, you will receive lack and what you don’t want.  You choose.


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Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks


One critical key noted in Napoleon Hill’s statement and echoed more subtly in Henry Ford’s statement is the belief.  Ask any of the richest and most successful people in the world their secret success plan and you will hear that they were laser focused on a goal and totally believed that they could and would achieve it.


Highly successful people have a different thought pattern than unsuccessful people.  Highly successful people focus on what they want and feel good about achieving their success plan.  Unsuccessful people focus on what they don’t want; unconsciously they are focusing on the fear of not achieving or the lack of what they truly want.


Whatever you really, really, really want and believe you will receive, you will get.  Whatever you really, really, really don’t want and think about repeatedly, you will also get.  As stated on the cover of Emotional Ice Water, “It’s what YOU think, feel and do.”


History Proves the Thought Success Plan


Andrew Carnegie was the richest man in the world when he commissioned Napoleon Hill to dedicate twenty years of his life to discovering the secrets of success.  The result of that project was the books, The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons and Think and Grow Rich.  Note the title is Think and grow rich, not work hard and grow rich, be lucky and grow rich or even be a genius and grow rich.  It is the thinking which makes it so.


If your goal is to increase your profit in 2014, the place to start is within your own thinking.  When you focus on positive thoughts of what you truly want and believe you can achieve, you create a powerful vibration which draws the success to you.  Remember the book The Secret which was all the rage a few years ago?  It also emphasized this powerful success plan.  You control your present and your future with your focus on positive thoughts and belief in positive results.

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Create Your Future

The responsibility for all of the events in our life is ours.  “Ouch, you say.  How can that be possible?  I did not ask to be laid off from my job.”



True, you may not have specifically asked for seemingly bad events to appear in your life.  You were broadcasting a vibration which brought certain events into your life.  In the case of being laid off from your job, were you thinking about wanting more money, wanting more responsibility or wanting a better position at work?  If so, do a subtle mindset shift and consider the possibility that eliminating your current job has given you the opportunity to find what you really do want to do.  Perhaps eliminating this job opened the potential for receiving a higher paying job or a job with even more responsibility.


Attitude of Gratitude


By looking at situations and events in your life with an attitude of “What good can come from this?” you open yourself to good events flowing into your life.  If you whine, complain and moan about “poor me” you are opening yourself to more situations and events where you feel like whining, complaining and moaning.  You will always receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.


By looking for the good in every situation, you are sending out a vibration of good and drawing more good to you.




This is the season of Thanksgiving.  Sending out a vibration of being grateful is 100% positive.  Nothing bad can possibly come from generating a vibration of gratitude.  An attitude of gratitude is 100% positive.  Every person has something for which to be grateful.  Being healthy, having food to eat, and a roof over our heads is a start toward gratitude.  The love of a friend, child, parent or spouse is a cause for gratitude.  Sunshine, beautiful landscapes and a spectacular sunrise or sunset are all beautiful creations we can all enjoy.  There is something we can each be grateful for if we look for the good.


“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”  Oprah Winfrey


Thoughts Generate Vibrations


Our thoughts generate vibrations and those vibrations return to us in similar situations and events.  If we are thinking good thoughts, we vibrate good and bring more good to ourselves.  If we vibrate anger, blame, or guilt, we draw more negative situations and events to ourselves which make us feel more anger, blame and guilt.


By the same token, if we are constantly thinking about lack, we bring more situations and events to ourselves which make us feel more lack.  Constantly saying, “I don’t have enough money” puts out a vibration to the universe saying “Not enough money.”  The universe thus sends us more situations and events where we do not have enough money.  By changing the vibration to “I’m grateful for the money I do have” the universe can send us even more money to be grateful for having.


Your thoughts and vibrations create the situations and events which give you even more opportunity for those same feelings.  Pay attention to your feelings and strive to feel good, think good thoughts and be grateful for what you have.


Always focus on the positive.  Focus on what you want.  Focus on feeling good.  It works.


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Thoughts Control Results

Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Think with passion

Focus on what you believe

Positive thoughts which you truly believe will come true, do come true.  If you think positive thoughts and truly believe, you project a vibration which draws positive results to you.

When you are obsessed with achieving your goals, you think about success the majority of the time.  When you are that obsessed with success, the action naturally flows.  It does not feel like work, it feels natural to take action.

Until you think you can achieve success, believe you can achieve it and take action, you will slow your positive results.

Napoleon Hill, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Always focus on the positive.  Focus on what you want.  Focus on feeling good.  It works.


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Create Your Results

You are responsible for your results.  I hear your brain protesting.  “What, I didn’t want to lose my

Thinking positive healing thoughts as I send the bear to a sick child.

Thinking positive healing thoughts as I send the bear to a sick child.

job.”  ‘I didn’t want to get that traffic ticket.”


No, you probably did not want a traffic ticket, trouble at work or even to stub your toe.  What you were thinking about was giving you the same feeling as the events which actually did occur.  You created the feelings with your thoughts and those feelings caused events in your life which matched the feelings you were thinking.


Good News


If you could create negative events with negative feelings, you can also create good events with good feelings.  It is the good feeling you wish to create.  Your objective is always to feel good or at least feel better than you did previously.  Thinking about what you truly want and feeling good is a solid indication that you are moving toward your desired goal.




What you really, really, really want, you will get.  What you really, really, really don’t want you will also receive.  How can that be true?  You will receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  The Law of Attraction reminds us that “what we think about, we bring about.”


The same message has been stated in many different forms.

“What you focus on expands.”

“Whatever you focus on is what you get; negative or positive, so focus on the positive and you’ll bring more positive into your life.”


Concentrate your thoughts on what you truly want.  Your thoughts can create your present and your future.  Create what you truly want.


What do you want?


Do you want more money?  Focus your thoughts on abundance and money flowing in to you.  If you focus on “no more debt” or “no more bills” or “no more unexpected expenses,” you will receive more debt, more bills and more expenses.  Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.


If you think, “I’m tired of being overweight” or “I’m tired of having to struggle to zip my jeans,” you are focusing your thoughts and energy on being overweight and struggling to zip your jeans.  Instead focus on being slim, trim and healthy.


Focus on what you want rather than what you do not want.


What do you have to lose?


Concentrate on positive thoughts all of the time.  Every time a negative or “not” thought tries to rear its ugly head, pounce on it with a positive thought.


Start with fifteen minutes and only allow positive thoughts.  Gradually work up to longer and longer times.  You will catch yourself smiling and feeling good.


What if something bad happens?


If something which appears to be bad happens, think “What good can come from this?”

Recently I was at a speaking engagement.  The engagement was at a large technical school campus.  I parked and wandered around the campus for a while attempting to locate the meeting room.  After the speak engagement, I once again wandered around searching for my car.  After the long drive home and putting away my materials, I noticed my wrist watch was gone.  The watch was purchased several years ago when I was visiting my son in Switzerland; the watch had real value and sentimental value.  None of my searches produced the watch.


Choices: Feel sorry for myself and moan about the loss or adopt the attitude of “What good can come from this?” Still not certain what the good will be; however, my attitude of “everything always works out” will once again prove true.  Something good will come from the situation.

I may have accidentally created my results by being anxious about being late to speak.  It is a lesson to me to continue to be vigilant to always think positive no matter what is happening.


Focus on “What good can come from this?” and something good will materialize.


Always focus on the positive.  Focus on what you want.  Focus on feeling good.  It works.


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Clarity, Focus and Action

“Destiny is not a matter of chance it’s a matter of choice it’s not a thing to be waited for, it’s a thing to be small dreamsachieved.“  – Winston Churchill


The national economy is teetering on the brink.  The powerful question is “teetering on which brink – the brink of disaster or the brink of recovery?”


The national economy is a concern.  Individually, you cannot solve the national economy.  Your primary concern is even closer to home; it is your personal situation.   Your personal tipping point may be finances, relationships or health.  Your precarious brink may be personal or it may be your career. Either personal issues or business challenges may cause your mental and emotional stability to intensify teetering on the brink; this feeling of uncertainly lurks in the back of your mind and disrupts full concentration on other activities.


What do you do when your business or your life hits a tough patch?


Go Back to the Basics


Identify your top priority.  Be very clear about your top priority.


If you are not absolutely positive of your top priority, that is the first item of uncertainty to be clarified.


Write free-flow for ten minutes without stopping.  Everything is possible.  Write everything you would ever like to achieve.  When the buzzer rings at the end of ten minutes, sit back and take a long cool drink of water.  Read your list.  Select your most important ten items.  Narrow it down to five.  Place those five in priority order.  If it helps, divide the list of five into short-term and long-term priorities.  Trim the list to the top three.  Of those three, which one is the most important to you?  Which one is the most urgent?


Every decision you make can be filtered through the question “Does this take me closer to my goal?”  If the answer is “yes,” go for it.  If the answer is “no,” rethink your choice.


How do you reach your top priority?


Find intelligent, experienced people to discuss your options.


No bar-room benefactors who are crying the blues in their beer.  No grumpy “the whole world is conspiring against me” whiners.  Choose clear-headed friends who will listen and offer sound advice when you ask for it.  Avoid angry, controlling and “know it all” advisors.  Look for someone who can be objective.


I once dated a man who said he was “often wrong but never in doubt.”  Whether or not he knew the answer, he spoke with conviction as if he did.  The lesson in this is to speak and act with conviction as you move toward your goal.


Hint guys: sometimes women want to talk through their thoughts and feelings out loud.  They may not be asking you to solve the problem; they are asking you to listen as a friend.


Discuss your ideas and options with intelligent, experienced, and clear-headed mentors.  Make the decision which is best for you.  The final decision is yours.  As the headline of the book Emotional Ice Water reads, “It’s

Push past emotional blocks

Push past emotional blocks

not what they say or do.  It’s what you think, feel and do.”  It is your goal.  It is your life.  It is your final decision.


Get spiritually grounded.


All of the 12 step programs recommend a higher power.  My higher power is God.  Acknowledging that a power exists greater than yourself can be very comforting.


Go for a walk in nature, read a good book, listen to soothing music, go visit a friend who needs comforting; do something to focus outside of yourself.




Healthy food and a restful night’s sleep can do wonders.


I once heard the acronym HALT – hungry, angry, lonely, tired.  When you are experiencing any of these, it is difficult to be your clear-headed best-thinking self. Do a self-check and see if there is a basic need which must be addressed in order to make clear-headed decisions.  Proceed with all of the advantages at your command.


Alcohol is a depressant.  When you are feeling discouraged, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol can send you into a massive downward spiral.  Be aware of your intake, both food and beverages.  Healthy choices increase healthy decisions.

Be honest with yourself.

Remember the question, “Does this decision take me closer to my goal?”  Get totally honest with yourself.  Focus on your top priority and keep moving toward it.  If you have been lying to yourself, now is the time to stop.  Be congruous with your core beliefs.  Focus on your top priority and you will achieve it.

One of the best ways to stop teetering on the brink is to be absolutely clear about your top priority and make every decision and every action take you closer to the achievement of that top priority.

“That’s been one of my mantras — focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.” – Steve Jobs

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Push past emotional blocks

How many times have you sat down to write a marketing piece and stared at a blank sheet of paper desperately searching for a flash of inspiration?  Suddenly you have an overwhelming urge to make a cup of coffee.  The corner of a note on your desk catches your eye and you remember a promise to phone someone.  Three or four interruptions later you are still staring at a blank sheet of paper; you are now out of time to write.


David Foster, known as the Hit Man for all of his hit records, said in his Success Magazine cover story that sometimes he does not feel like writing a song.  He does it anyway.  Maybe it will be good rather than great, but it will be a song.  He went on to say that he forces himself to sit down and start writing; the inspiration will come.


Professional writers have spoken about writing a ten page paper and throwing away the first two pages before they hit their stride.


The Nike slogan says it best, “Just do it.”




You can reach for the ultimate comfort food – warm chocolate brownies.  Or you can stop giving yourself excuses and start working.


Easier to tell yourself to concentrate than to do it?  


Probably true, but also realistic.  Amazing how many excuses and distractions you can create when you do not want to do something, do not know how to do it, or are simply not motivated to do it.   


  1. 1.       Set a timer for thirty minutes and tell yourself that you will focus until the buzzer rings.  Once you actually start writing, it usually starts to flow.


  1. 2.      Give yourself a reward when the project is completed. 


  1. 3.      Ask yourself a critical question.  What do you want the audience to think, feel or do after reading the material?  Answering that question can provide inspiration.


  1. Who is your target audience?  Until you know the individual you are expecting to read your material, you do not know how to write in the manner in which they will want to receive the message.  Think about your target client and write as if you are speaking to them.


  1. 5.      What problem would you like to solve for them?  In the case of the focus issue, the problem is writers block; the goal is to get the writer “un-stuck.”


What would you tell one of your clients, one of your employees, or one of your children if they were hitting a blank wall on an assignment?  Would you subscribe to the “Take my advice, I’m not using it” theory?  You probably would not admit it to them.  I’ve hit the wall many times with projects.  These are the ways I solve the inertia problem.


Take my own advice


What do I want you, my reader, to think?  Think that you are not alone.  Every business person faces the dilemma of “blank page syndrome” from time to time.


What is the goal for you to feel?  Feel that a solution exists.  Think of the block as tissue paper rather than stone and know that you can push through to success.


What should you do?  Follow the Nike slogan and “Just do it.”

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