Relationships

Elaine Love, author of Emotional Ice Water

If you are ready to get out of your own way, you owe it to yourself to read this book

In the book Emotional Ice Water, the tag line reminds us that it is not about what others say and do but what we think, feel and do.  These words of wisdom relate to all aspects of our relationships.  Yes, your reputation may revolve around the opinions of others, but our self-image and our self-esteem must be solidly rooted in a healthy self-confidence and belief in our self-worth.

If we do not believe in ourselves and the value we bring to our relationships, how can we possibly expect others to believe in us?

Picture a salesman walking in to a meeting where his job requires him to effectively present his product.  If he does not believe in himself or his product, it would take a small miracle for him to be able to present with confidence and conviction.  Image the salesman’s inner dialogue.  If he is saying, “This product is far too expensive for their budget.” Or perhaps his or her thoughts are “I wish I had my sales manager here to demonstrate this product.  They do a much better job of describing the features and benefits than I do.”  These self-doubts and lack of confidence in the potential positive outcome of the presentation absolutely transmit to the customer.  Consciously or unconsciously, the doubts manifest; even a semi-aware customer picks up on the negative vibration.

It took me eight months to make my first sale in a high end network marketing company.  Was it the product?  No.  Was it the fault of the company?  No.  Perhaps the blame rests at the feet of my enroller (upline).  No.  The problem centered solidly on my shoulders.  At that point, I did not have confidence in myself and my sales ability.  I was not building a relationship with the prospect.  My lack of confidence in my abilities provided more of a hesitation than an incentive to purchase.

After serious study and personal development, eventually the sales flowed in abundance.  At one point, the results were over $57,000 per month.  What made the difference?  The difference maker was learning to build relationships.

So are your minds asking, “How do I build relationships?  Tell me, I want that level of income.”

Relationships are built by focusing on the prospect.  What do they need?  What is important to them?  How will the product or service benefit them?

When the attention is focused on the benefit to the other party rather than on an attitude of “What is in this for me,” the relationship builds.  When the relationship solidifies, the resistance lowers.

Relationship building is essential in every aspect of life.  Personal relationships deepen when you care more about the other person than you do about yourself.  Do you enjoy having the people you care about demonstrate that they care about you?  Of course you do.

Business relationships work the same way.  Do you enjoy being sold, pressured or manipulated to buy?  No.  People always buy more from those they know, like and trust.  A trusting relationship encourages more interaction.  The tendency is frequently to run from those we do not like or trust.

 

If you desire to improve your life, build your personal and professional relationships.

For more information on relationships, stay tuned to www.Elaine4Success.com.  Also inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation coaching.  Go to www.Elaine4Success.com/Contact or www.MeetElaineLove.com

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