Relationship Thermometer

If your relationships were on a thermometer, would they register “warm and happy” or “cold and distant?”

Improving relationships and peace

Key to better relationships

The recent issue of Success magazine cd featured an interview depicting our relationships primarily as either a victim or a competitor role.  It went on to say that many of our communication issues and thus communication problems stem from both parties choosing to occupy the victim role at the same time.  “You did this to me.”  “No, I am the one who is wronged.  You need to apologize.”  If both parties are locked into a “I’m right and you are wrong” mindset, how can we possibly resolve conflicts?

It was once said that all wars would end in lightning speed if the politicians who were pontificating were squared off on the front line against each other with live weapons instead of sending our innocent young soldiers to the front lines.  The danger of live bullets instead of sharp words could make a significant difference in the willingness to listen, understand the opposing view and reach a resolution.

This same willingness to listen, care about the feelings and opinions of the other party, and find a mutually agreeable solution could solve innumerable personal and professional misunderstandings as well.

Where are your relationships on the temperature scale?  Are you locked into your position with a closed mind or are you attentively listening to the opposing view with an attempt to understand.

What good could possibly come from stepping out of the “I’m right.  You’re wrong” or “I’m the victim” role and listening with genuine interest and curiosity to the other person?  Fewer unhappy marriages?  Fewer lawsuits? Fewer business conflicts?  Perhaps we would even have more happy, productive employees.  What a concept – healing relationships rather than intensifying conflict.

Unless you enjoy being miserable or making others unhappy, it is certainly a valid thought.  Just for the exercise today, even if it is only for an hour, resolve to listen and understand rather than lash out.  You may be delighted with the outcome.

Raise your relationship temperature into the warm and happy zone on the thermometer.  Listen and attempt to understand the other party   You may actually end the day with a smile instead of a frown and know that you did the same for the other party.

For more information on relationships, stay tuned to www.Elaine4Success.com.  Also inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation coaching.  Go to www.Elaine4Success.com/Contact or www.MeetElaineLove.com

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