What is your battle? This internal dilemma theme has been touted in the pop song, “Torn Between Two Lovers” and the movie of its origin, Doctor Zhivago. Country songs have moaned about it and our legal system is clogged with cases of two opposing viewpoints. One of the more definitive statements about internal turmoil is the Cherokee proverb, “There is a Battle of Two Wolves Inside Us All.”
One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, lies, inferiority and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth.
Which wolf wins? The one you feed.
Name Your Wolves
Who are your destructive wolves? Can you call them by name? Anger, blame, guilt, resentment and lack of deservability are among the most familiar. How often do you feed them? Allowing your thoughts to drift too frequently to these negatives or remain there too long and you may be feeding them a seven course meal instead of a snack.
Don’t think for even a moment that I have not ever fed them. Unfortunately there have been times when I felt sad, alone, hurt or even mistreated; those are the times I fed them. If anyone ever tells you that they have never been upset, angry, disappointed, resentful or even jealous, they are lying, forgetful or delusional. Experiencing the full range of emotions is normal human behavior.
The gentle wolf is when my small grandson snuggles up beside me and just cuddles. He doesn’t even want to talk or play, he just wants to be loved and feel safe and wanted. How many times in your life have you experienced the supreme bliss of just being with someone? Neither of you even had to say a word; you were content just being together.
Perhaps there were times you were consoling someone or being consoled when you felt better because they were there with you. Remember the times you did something for another person without wanting or expecting anything in return. Remember the warm feeling; it is like the glow of a fragrant candle in a dark room.
Jim Rohn, famous business philosopher, tells a tale of the “day that turns your life around.”
It may be the day you declare “I’ve had enough. Things are going to change right now.”
Jim tells the story of a young mother who asked her husband for ten dollars and he said “What for?” She vowed that very day that she would never ever ask for money again. She looked for new skills. She found the classes. She looked for new opportunities to stretch and grow. She kept looking until she found them. Twelve years later she was vice president of a major jewelry company in New York City.
Her entire life changed because she turned loose of the fur of the wolf which fed her inferiority and embraced the wolf of hope. Which wolf do you need to stop feeding and chase away? Which wolf do you need to embrace? The choice is yours.
The book Emotional Ice Water helps you identify each destructive wolf and release it. You know you will always receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus. Focus on the gentle wolves.
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