Archive for the ‘Millionaire Mindset’ Category

The Goal is Bettering Your Best

Who do you compete against?  You might say your team members, other leaders in the company, or other companies.  What if you thought about competing against yourself?  What if your goal every day was not focused on those outside but instead focused on yourself?  Yes, normally I’ve said not to focus on yourself but others.  In this case, focus on yourself and better your own best.

Lead, follow or step aside

Lead, follow or step aside

When you focus on all of the people and factors outside, it is easy to be overwhelmed.  There are factors such as the economy, the job market and the weather which you cannot personally control.  Being powerless and out of control is not a feeling entrepreneurs building a successful business readily identify with; they certainly do not strive for a feeling of being a victim or being powerless.

You have 100% absolute total control of competing against yourself.  You are in control of striving to better your own personal best.

“I am in competition with no one.  I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone.  I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday.”

Better Your Best

Of course you observe what your co-workers, team mates and the other companies are doing, but the focus is always on bettering your own personal best.  Focus on improving your own statistics and suddenly you glance at the leader board and everyone is chasing you.

Athletes strive to shave seconds off of their time, score more points through improving their techniques, and increase their endurance in order to perform at their best for longer periods of time.

In network marketing we track our ads placed, leads generated, follow up contacts, and sales generated.  We monitor our marketing costs in relation to revenue generated.  Our goal is always to improve our own individual statistics.  Statistics do not make you profitable but statistics are a quantitative method of measuring your progress in building a successful business.

Beauty of a rose

Symbol of beauty and appreciation.

Think Like a Flower   

“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.”

Concentrate on your own blooming success.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

When you focus on improving yourself through personal development and professional skill development, you will automatically improve.

It is not a matter of having the latest and greatest iPhone or software, though having the best tools does help; it is a matter of improving your skills in utilizing that software.  It is about improving your skills.  It is about bettering your own personal best.

golf lessonA golfer was struggling to improve his score.  As he was considering yet another purchase of new clubs, the pro came by and casually said, “It’s not the clubs.  Instead of buying new clubs, take lessons.”  

In network marketing, owning the most efficient and most applicable software certainly helps.  Owning it isn’t enough, it is learning how to use it most effectively which makes the difference.  It isn’t the software; it is your own skills.  Take lessons from your mentor/sponsor and improve your own skills.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

“Competition is a good thing; it forces us to do our best.”

Your own personal competition is the best motivator possible.

One day you will look at the leader board and discover that everyone is chasing you.  That is a good thing because the more time they spend trying to figure out what you are doing and analyzing your performance, the less time they are spending on developing their own skills.  You continue bettering your own personal best and continue leaping forward building a successful business.

“The moment you become wrapped up in worrying about competition, you’ve missed the message of your own destiny.”  Valarie Hurst

But how????

The most direct method of improving your statistics and thus your results is to select one aspect at a time.

Select the top item on your “I want to be better at this” list.

If you are time-challenged and need to maximize your productivity during your limited time availability, select an efficiency generating software.  Once selected, contact your sponsor immediately and learn all of the nuances of the software.  Software by itself is similar to a book on your bookshelf which you never open – money spent without value gained.

Contact your sponsor and learn the most efficient and productive ways to implement the software.  Time, money and energy are all critical to the entrepreneur building a successful business.  You can purchase the best software on the market, but until you use it in to its fullest capability, it is just money spent.  Learn the best tricks, tips and techniques to use the software and then go do it.  It’s putting it into action with knowledge which makes it valuable software.

It is not a fact of ownership, but of skilled implementation of the knowledge combined with the ownership which is most productive.

Master it and Move On

mirror“We are really competing against ourselves; we have no control over how others perform.”  Pete Cashmore

When you have mastered one element on your chosen improvement list, select another.  Roll up your sleeves and start working.  Check them off one by one.  Personal development and professional skill development are your keys to building a successful business.

“The only way to succeed is to not worry about what anyone else is doing.” 

The Key to Success is Constantly Bettering Your Own Personal Best

Make a list of skills you choose to improve.  Achieve them one by one.  As long as you are focused on bettering your own personal best at all times, you are building a successful business and a successful person.  Don’t worry about what others are doing.

“Look in the mirror. . .that’s your competition.”

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It’s Your Future

“Making a big life change is pretty scary.  Know what is scarier? 

Lead, follow or step aside

Lead, follow or step aside


New Year’s resolutions and 2015 business goals are just around the corner.  This is the time of year we reflect on what is and what has been.  We ask ourselves what we truly want for our future.

  • What do you really love about your life right now?
  • What don’t you like about your life right now?
  • What would you like to be different about your life for the future?

Do you want to spend the rest of your life doing exactly what you are doing now or do you want a chance to change the world?

I hear your mind saying, “Oh I can’t change the world.”  Really?

“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.

I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.

When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town.

I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family.

My family and I could have made an impact on our town.

Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”  Salanter – Nineteenth Century Professor

You can indeed change the world.  All change starts with within ourselves.  It may be scary, exhilarating or inspiring. Someone is looking to you for guidance.  You are a role model to someone.  Your life is your message, your example.  Is it the inspiration you want it to be?  It can be.  On an even more personal level, are you living the life you want to live?

New Year – New Opportunity

I remember when I realized that I was spending my time, talent and energy making someone else rich.  Yes, I really enjoyed my job and I had a fantastic boss.  He and I both secretly knew that someday I would have my own business.  I have never regretted becoming an entrepreneur.  It is my passion.

“There are three simple rules in life

  1. If you do not GO after what you want, you’ll never have it.


  1. If you do not ask, the answer will always be NO.


  1. If you do not step FORWARD, you will always be in the same place.

You really do have the power, the right and the responsibility to yourself to reach for your dreams.  What you choose to do about it is your decision.


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What is Success?

We are constantly chasing success.  Are we like the dog chasing cars?  What is your definition of significancesuccess?  Until you know what success represents to you, how will you know if and when you achieve it?

Inca Trail

A few years ago I hiked the Inca Trail in Peru.  I met some of the most wonderful, kind, gentle, peaceful and happy people.  They were living in a structure which did not appear to be sturdy enough to withstand a stiff breeze.  Yet they invited me to their “casa” (home).  They smiled at each other and at me, a stranger.  Success to them did not appear to require wealth or fancy possessions.  They had an aura of genuine warmth and sense of peace about them.

Zig Zigler

Zig’s last book Born to Win! Find Your Success Code shared his winning philosophy.  He listed

What Success Is

  1. Success is knowing that you did a great job
  2. Success is home and people to love who love you in return.
  3. Success is financial security
  4. Success is faith
  5. Success is an interest or hobby you enjoy
  6. Success is knowing who you are
  7. Success is being healthy
  8. Success is gratitude

What Success Isn’t

  1. Choosing work over family dinners
  2. Hiding in front of the TV after a long day
  3. Making more money than you need
  4. Going to church, but not listening
  5. All work and no play
  6. Eating junk food because it is fast
  7. Worrying about work or bills and missing family events
  8. Texting while you drive to save time

Success as a Balanced Life

Get over the myth that life will be perfectly balanced at all times.  It won’t.

We do have control over the priorities we choose.

Supporting the family is important.  What do they really need and want most?

When I taught in the third richest school district in United States, I found that my students received an extremely generous allowance, but what they wanted was some time and attention.  They would have preferred having one of their parents attend their sporting event rather than being given cash and dismissed.

The people I met in Peru had virtually nothing in terms of material possessions and yet they were happy being together.

As I look back over my twenties and thirties, I focused too much on work honestly thinking I was being responsible.  Zig Zigler’s lists of what success is and isn’t gives me cause for reassessment of what is really important.  What does success really mean?

For me success has become more about people, feelings and peace of mind.  Yes, I truly enjoy creature comforts, pretty clothes and achieving goals.  Some of the goals on the list have shifted.

Zig was a very wise man.  How many people do you imagine have ever reached the final stages of life and said “I wish I had spent more time at the office and less at home?”  Not many, if any.

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The pursuit of excellence consumes the mind of every top achiever.  An athlete who has the goal of participating

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

in the Olympic Games strives to extract every degree of excellence and efficiency possible.  Mediocrity never enters the mind of an Olympic bound athlete.  Being average belongs to the playground athlete not the gold medal winners.


The story of a concert violinist also depicts excellence.  A lady came back stage to greet the master after a magnificent performance.  She exclaimed, “I would give my life to play like that.”  The master smiled, thanked her and replied, “I did.”  He devoted his entire life to mastering the skill and performance excellence.


Achievement of superiority in any endeavor requires intense dedication.  Study the masters, study success, study yourself to refine and enhance every aspect.  Excellence is never achieved without study and extensive effort.


The “excellence” has hung on my wall for over a decade.  Unfortunately, it arrived without an author’s name attached.  I do not claim it as mine, but I treasure its wisdom.


“Excellence is:

The result of caring more than others think is wise

Risking more than others think is safe

Dreaming more than others think is practical and

Expecting more than others think is possible.”


Success magazine featured David Foster, the hit man, in the September 2009 magazine.  David has achieved super star status not only as a performer but as a producer.  He told his mentor about the first record he produced with the explanation/apology that one track was not his favorite and another track had a small part which was not perfectly in tune.  His mentor snatched the record out of his had and pointed out David’s name on the label as producer.  “Never put your name on something you are not proud of having associated with you.”  From that day on, David adopted the philosophy of “good enough isn’t.”  Always strive for the very best.  This absolute pursuit of excellence has been one of the reasons David has achieved superstar status.


Your name depicts your legacy.  How do you choose to be remembered – “as one who just got by” or as “one who excelled?”  Perfectionism can be a handicap as well as an asset.  The goal of excellence has more to do with “bettering your best” than paralyzing yourself with lack of action until everything is perfect.  Take action and continue working toward your individual excellence goal.


Employees can be grouped in three categories: white knights, milk toast, and red ants.  The white knights always go above and beyond their job descriptions; they help others and work to achieve the very best results for the company and all employees.  The white knights strive for excellence.


The milk toast arrives at the last minute, do their job but no more and leave at 30 seconds past quitting time.  This is a mediocre attitude.


The red ants are always causing discord in the work place and complaining about everything.  Red ants get fired.


Strive to be a “white knight.”  White knights understand excellence.  White knights receive raises and promotions, but even more, they earn the respect and admiration of everyone whose lives they touch.


Always strive to be the very best you can possibly be and celebrate each achievement.  Excellence is a journey and a process.  The person who strives for excellence never settles for “good enough.”  They thrive on the challenge and relish each new achievement.  This desire for excellence permeates the atmosphere around them and inspires others to reach for their own personal excellence.


Create your own excellence mindset.

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Unexpected Events

“Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate
with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

with the weak and the wrong. Sometime in your life
you will have been all of these.”


~ Dr. Robert H. Goddard

This resonates with me in so many ways.  If we apply it to business, we have all been new to some aspect of business, experienced at some aspect, challenged or frustrated with business and uncertain or wrong at times.  This quotation applies on so many levels.


Regardless of the particular time or circumstances of our career situation, one fact remains absolute.  It is not about what happens to us but how we respond which makes the difference.




When something happens which you did not expect or particularly want, or doesn’t happen when you really expected good news, what do you do?  You can choose to get upset or you can adopt the mindset of, “What good can come from this?”  If your mindset is constantly looking for an advantage to every situation, you will find that advantage.


I recently had an unexpected and truly unwanted experience.  A writing assignment which I was enjoying immensely suddenly came to a screeching halt.  I was working as a as a subcontractor for the marketing director.  To my surprise, I received an email saying that her employment had been terminated; therefore, my position was also eliminated.  Ouch!  If you have ever lost a job, you relate.  The more unexpected the situation, the more you relate.


What do I do now?  Start looking for a job, start my own business, eat a bag of chocolate or pull my hair?


Stop and Breathe


A sudden change of plans gives us the opportunity to examine what we really want.  In a relationship change, we can decide what is really important to us in a relationship and what we really do not want in a future relationship.


In a career change we have the opportunity to refresh our resume and choose our future path.


What did you like best about your prior job or jobs?

What did you not like about prior employment positions?

If you could design the ideal career for yourself, what would you include as a priority, a like but not a necessity and a dislike?


Once you have the criteria clearly defined, you have parameters.  You would never start out on a vacation without having a vague idea where you wanted to go.  You cannot expect to plan the next phase of your career without a vague direction. (BTW, these exact questions work for determining a new relationship as well.  Both are relationships; one is personal and one is professional)


Success Plan


Once you have created your success plan to know what you do and do not want, you know where you want to start looking.  Form a plan of action, success plan, to know what specific type of position you are seeking, which type of companies would most likely offer that position and which ones are in your area.


We can continue refining the success plan as to the best methods to locate access to key personnel within those industries or companies.


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Blame and Guilt

Blame and guilt can rob you of your happiness if you allow it.

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks


How many victim-mentality people have you known in your life?  They say the negative events in their life are someone else’s fault.  Somehow they are always the victim but never the cause.

What happens in their life is never their fault.


If they are always the victim, then it stands to reason that they have no power or control over their life.  I don’t know about you, but I refuse to be standing on the sidelines helplessly watching my life unfold before me.  Controlling every event of life is unrealistic, but expecting to control some decisions and events is certainly possible.




If we are not helpless, we must assume some measure of responsibility.  Personally the role of a victim is totally unappealing to me.  In order to avoid that uncomfortable position, it means accepting a role which may be even more uncomfortable.  We are responsible for everything which happens to us.  This can be both an uncomfortable position and a powerful position at the same times.  It means that we are totally responsible for the good and the bad in our life.


In my book, Emotional Ice Water, the cover tag line is “It’s not what they say or do.  It’s what YOU think, feel and do.”  For my life, that means that what happens in my life is directly related to what I think, feel and do.  I am responsible for my life.


This is an empowering and a daunting feeling.  Once you take full responsibility for the events in life, you know you are in control.  Does it mean that nothing bad will ever happen again?  Yes and no.  Events will happen which were not your original desire, but does that necessarily mean that they are bad?  No.


Recently while driving on the interstate I encountered my first flash flood.  Pumping the brakes did not help.  Moving the steering wheel did not yield any control.  As I watched the car moving closer and closer to the concrete abutment, I was truly unable to stop or swerve.  This was not a desirable situation or one that I had wanted to occur.  Was it bad?  It could have been a disaster.  Fortunately, as I neared the concrete, the car slowed and came to a rest before crashing into the concrete.  Shaking, I maneuvered the car back on to the interstate and proceeded to an exit.


Still shaking I called a friend who answered the phone and calmed me enough that I was able to get out of the car and step on stage to give my speech.


How was I responsible for that situation?  Upon reflection, my thoughts were fearful that I would be late to step on stage.  My own thoughts were fearful and the incident with the car produced similar fearful thoughts.


My thoughts created more like thoughts.  Speaking with my friend produced reassurance which generated more reassurance.  Like thoughts create like thoughts and events.  The situation with the car was not anyone else’s fault.  It was a one car situation.  It was not a matter of blame or guilt, but one of responsibility.


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You Control Your Results

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

How many times have you felt that your life was spinning out of control? Is the economy to blame?  Is it the fault of your parents and the way you were raised?  Is it the school you did or did not attend?  Is it your age, gender or ethnicity?


No, it is none of these.  The truth is a good news/bad news scenario.

Good news – You control your present and your future.

Bad news – You have been controlling your past and your current circumstances.


Your Thoughts Start a Chain Reaction


“Wait, you say, I didn’t choose to be broke or sad.”  Not intentionally, but you did create your circumstances.


Chapter 13 of Think and Grow Rich stated “Dr. Alexander Graham Bell, and Dr. Elmer R. Gates, observed that every human brain is both a broadcasting and a receiving station for the vibration of thought.”


“Through the medium of the ether, in a fashion similar to that employed by the radio broadcasting principle, every human brain is capable of picking up vibrations of thought which are being released by other brains.”


Have you ever walked in to a job interview with negative thoughts in your mind?  When you approach the situation with a negative thought, the circumstances prove you correct.  Exactly the same principle works for the person who says ‘I can’t lose weight.  I’ve tried everything.”  “I can’t stop drinking, gambling, or using drugs.  I can’t help myself.”  When that is the mindset, they transmit a vibration of weakness; circumstances and events prove them correct.


Good News


If you have been transmitting a vibration of “I can’t,” your results prove that you can’t.  If you change that vibration to “I can” your motivation, determination and confidence combine to prove that you can.  Your thoughts start the process and your actions follow through according to the direction of your thoughts.  If you want to succeed, create a positive success plan.  Create a success plan based on “I can.”


It is not the latest and greatest new diet or even a magic new 12 step program.  The difference is the success plan created in your mind.  When you change your thoughts from “I can’t” to “I can” the world conspires to help your “I can” thought become reality.  Focusing your thoughts on “I can’t” is a negative plan.  Think negative and you receive negatives.


Does it mean that suddenly everything is easy and effortless?  No.  You still have old well-established negative thought patterns.  The good news is that once you shift your thoughts and beliefs to the positive instead of the negative you have increased your probability of positive results.  In order to receive positive results create a positive success plan and focus on success.




Form an image in your mind of how you will look and feel when you are successful.  See yourself as you will be when your success plan is achieved.  Experience the feeling of success.  See the people you care about congratulating you.  Savor the pure joy of your success.  Recapture those successful thoughts and feelings several times a day for as long as possible each time.  Gradually your negative thoughts will be replaced with successful thoughts.  Success will be a reality.


You are responsible for your circumstances.  Create positive thoughts and experience positive results.


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Good Things Still Happen

 Our  14-year-old dog Abbey died last month.
The day after she passed away my 4-year-old daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey.
She asked if we  could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven,  God would recognize her. 

    I told her that I thought  we could so, and she dictated these  words:

Dear  God,

Will  you please take care of my dog?
She died  yesterday and is with you in heaven.
I  miss her very much.
I ‘m happy that you  let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.
I  hope you will play with her.
She likes to  swim and play with balls.
I am sending a  picture of her so when you see her you will know that she is  my dog.
I really miss  her.

Love,  Meredith

We  put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey &  Meredith , addressed it to God/Heaven.   We put our  return address on it.   Meredith pasted several  stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would  take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven.  That afternoon she dropped it into the letter box at the post  office.   A few days later, she asked if God had  gotten the letter yet.   I told her that I thought  He had.

Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold  paper on our front porch addressed, ‘To Meredith’ in an  unfamiliar hand.
Meredith opened  it.   Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called, ‘When  a Pet Dies.’   Taped to the inside front cover was  the letter we had written to God in its opened  envelope.   On the opposite page was the picture of  Abbey & Meredith and this  note:

Dear  Meredith,

Abbey  arrived safely in heaven. Having the picture was a big help  and I recognized her right away.  Abbey isn’t sick  anymore.   Her spirit is here with me just like it  stays in your heart.   Abbey loved being your  dog.  Since we don’t need our bodies in heaven, I don’t  have any pockets to keep your picture in so I’m sending it  back to you in this little book for you to keep and have  something to remember Abbey by.  Thank you for the  beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write  it and sending it to me.
What a wonderful  mother you have.   I picked her especially for  you.   I send my blessings every day and remember  that I love you very much.   By the way, I’m easy to  find.   I am wherever there is  love.


Positive Role Model

Confession:  I am a devout Kansas Chiefs football fan.

Lance Armstrong’s use of performance drugs, Jonathan Martin’s mistreatment at the hands of Richie Incognito and some of his other Dolphins teammates, and the multiple rape allegations against Pro Bowl safety Darren Sharper all disillusion youngsters and adults about their sports heroes.   OJ Simpson, Tiger Woods and numerous other sports legends have crumpled their pedestals.

I know, negative news sells.  The media dwells on negative news because it draws public attention.

Iv’e always said, if it is bad enough to complain about, it is bad enough to do something about.

Alex Smith is a Positive Role Model

Positive Role Model On and Off the Field

Positive Role Model

Here is an excerpt from a recent Arrowhead Addict article.

While not highly publicized, Kansas City Chiefs quarterback Alex Smith founded and continues to run one of the most highly successful non-profit charity foundations in the country. As much as I recommended Mark Schlereth’s piece on the culture of the NFL, I would equally recommend this piece by Eric Branch at titled “Alex Smith Gave His All – Off The Field, Too” It breaks down not only what Smith’s foundation does, but his motivations for doing it. In case my endorsement isn’t enough, here’s the beginning of the piece to get your attention:

There is Marquis Blount, who grew up fatherless with a drug-addled mother.

And Sade Burrell, who went to elementary school dotted with bruises from beatings her mother delivered with a broomstick.

And Cece Hollis, who, at 16, called social services to escape from a mother who neglected and abused her and a younger sister.

And there are 20 other young men and women whose childhoods were ravaged by pain and abandonment. Former foster teens, they’re now college graduates thanks to Alex Smith and his foundation.

Basically, Smith started a foundation like so many other NFL players have, but Smith wanted to make sure that his foundation wasn’t “just another NFL player foundation”. His foundation helps foster kids attend college. The following quote is from a shortSam Mellinger piece on the same topic:

“I’ve been to so many deals with so many of my peers,” Smith says. “I hate to say it, but you go and it’s some tournament or big party or dinner, and you don’t even know what you’re raising money for. It’s like, ‘Oh, it’s for the kids.’ Thanks. But what are you doing?”

In other words, Alex Smith didn’t want to just throw some party and pass the money along to a charity and not ever know what came of it. Instead he funded his foundation with his own money and put his family to work making sure it really made a real tangible difference in the lives of those that he was able to meet through the foundation. He and his family actually get to know the kids in the program, it’s personal, and his success rate is through the roof. The results were so successful in fact, that others have studied his foundation to try and copy it’s methods. While his family has helped run the day to day operations, Smith is far from a silent partner. Also from the SFgate piece:

To lobby for changes to the child-welfare system, he has traveled to Washington, D.C., testified before a state Senate panel in Sacramento and co-written editorials. He’s spoken at national conferences in Tampa, Fla., and Kansas City to share the blueprint of his foundation, which has counted his sister, Abbey, and his mother as its unpaid executive directors.

Just like his football persona, Alex Smith isn’t flashy. He isn’t looking for the spotlight or to self promote. He sees a job that needs done and he is confident that he can be the guy to get that job done. A lot has been made of Smith’s efficiency at playing quarterback. It turns out that he’s even better at helping youth who have been lost in the system to turn their lives around than he is at not throwing interceptions. When he looks back at his life and career, I’m guessing it won’t be his ability to protect the football that he’ll take the most pride in.

That’s the kind of guy that I trust with a big contract. If Alex Smith does get a new contract from the Chiefs you can rest assured he won’t see it as a reason to take his foot off the gas pedal. It will just be more resources that he can contribute to helping those that weren’t blessed with the same upbringing that he was. KC fans may not all agree with Smith’s status as the Chiefs starting quarterback moving forward, but we should all agree that off the field Smith is all that you could ask for, and then some.

Chiefs Promote Positive Role Models

I have heard for years that Kansas City Chiefs players are very strongly requested to be involved in community service.  I’ve been a Chiefs fan since 1968 and still am a Chiefs fan.  Yes, I like the team but more than anything is my respect for what they stand for.  Our kids need positive role models.  If they can’t look up to sports heroes, religious leaders, parents and teachers, where are they expected to find positive role models?  We are each responsible for being a positive role model and promoting positive role models.

Be the Positive Role Model you want your kids to admire and emulate.   Promote positive role models.

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Emotional Success Plan

Devastating events do not define you; your reactions do.

Devastating events do not define you; your reactions do.

When life pushes your emotional buttons it is difficult to maintain a positive attitude.   That moment and several minutes or hours to follow can be at the top of the challenging scale.


My recent article in the Castle Rock Business Examiner portrays the devastation of Peyton Manning after the Broncos Super Bowl loss.  Our losses may not have been as widely publicized or received as much commentary in social media, broadcast media and living rooms, but they may be just as devastating.


Emotional Outlet


What do you do to revive your spirits after a particularly devastating event?




I am a physical person.  No, that does not mean throwing china or even kicking the dog.  Physical for me means going for a run, lifting weights at the gym, or renting the ball machine and hitting tennis balls.  Perhaps a bicycle ride, snow shoeing, or a long walk fits into your lifestyle more appropriately.  In earlier years aristocracy would go for a long walk and gaze at the landscape far away; looking at objects far away was reputed to increase the focus on the good elements in the future rather than the concerns of the moment.




Reading, listening to music or meditating have been known to soothe the spirits of the more gentle souls.  Writing in a journal is a suggestion.  Perhaps writing a long verbose, angry or highly emotional letter may be a satisfactory outlet.  Write until you have exhausted your stress and then crumple the paper or burn it may be your emotional outlet of choice.


Success plan


Once the initial emotional outlet has minimized some of the anguish, it is time to look ahead.  If the trauma was a job loss, it is time to analyze what you truly desire in the next position.


  1.  What did you really like about this or other previous employment situations?  Make a list of the aspects you liked the best and perhaps why you enjoyed those particular tasks.


  1.  What were the situations or tasks which you choose not to repeat?


  1. If you could design the ideal income opportunity for yourself, what would you include or exclude?


  1. Would you prefer an employment situation or a business of your own?


  1. What is most important to you – security, income potential, freedom, structure, variety, predictability, advancement potential or benefits?  Consider your interests, skills, long and short range desires, and your personal dreams and goals.



Never discount your dreams.  “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” stated Napoleon Hill.  The key is having a goal and believing in yourself and your ability to achieve it.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”  Both men encourage you to believe in yourself, believe in your dream and take the action to bring it into reality.

We all encounter emotional circumstances.  The key is to find an appropriate emotional outlet and proceed to construct and implement a success plan for the future.  You have the right to design and live the future you choose.  Regardless of your current situation, there is a desirable emotional outlet and an attractive option.  When you know the attractive option for you, create your success plan and take action to start implementing it.  It is your future; dare to dream and achieve.


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