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Grow or Go

The question of when to “grow or go” faces every business owner.  You stand at the precipice and ask yourself if you want to

Grow into your goal

Grow into your goal

expand the business or sell.  How do you decide?

The questions come down to priorities.  The quantifiable ones are the easier ones.

Are you making money?

Are you making money?  Seriously what profit are you generating on a consistent basis? Look at the focused hours you are investing in order to generate that profit.  What is your time and effort worth?

On the good days when business is flowing and you are receiving the emotional satisfaction of achievement, the monetary amount seems less significant but on the bad days when customers or employees are unhappy about something, the significance changes dramatically.  At 8 am this business may feel like the best idea you have ever had, but at 2 am when you awake from a restless sleep wrestling with a problem, it seems like the worst idea.

Is it enough?

Profit vs time and effort

Profit vs time and effort

On a strictly quantifiable basis, is the amount of money you are earning enough to pay your bills, save some money for your future retirement and support the lifestyle you envision for yourself and your family?  If you just felt the twinge or a knot in your stomach, then perhaps this calculation deserves a more serious analysis.

I remember when this very dilemma arose in my business.  The first time it arose, the industry was growing, my market share was growing and the potential appeared strong that my income would be increasing.  I streamlined a few details with the operations and overhead to improve the current service to my clients and staff.

My business was property management.  At that time I was working primarily with executive clients (non-rental clients who were absentee owners) and owners and tenants in long term rental properties.  Since my company was located in a ski resort, the decision was to expand into vacation rentals as well.

Vacation rentals required considerably more employees to handle housekeeping, reservations and maintenance.  It also required expensive marketing and an entirely new segment of owners who wanted to rent their homes to vacationers.  The increased cost to the company was enormous but so was the profit potential.  Vacation rentals generate a much higher profit margin for the company and the owners when everything works: the snow, the flow of renters and wise management decisions.

The risk and initial company capital outlay was scary high.  The reward potential was also temptingly high.  My decision was carefully weighed from all angles.  The decision was to go for it.  Thankfully, it exceeded my most optimistic projections.

How long will the profit be sustainable?

At that time the profit potential appeared to be increasing.  15 years later when the same decision of “grow or go” arose, the

Time is Valuable

“Time Thinking”

decision was to sell.

Analysis:

  1. Profit – amount, trend up or down, consistency, and potential for the future
  2. Hours – total personal hours, rate per hour actually earned, potential for the future
  3. Industry- trend for the industry locally and nationwide

These are quantifiable considerations.  Numbers are absolute.  If the decision is to sell as mine was 15 years later, these are the numbers which a potential purchaser will also scrutinize.

Emotional factors

What is your personal passion level?  How passionate are you about your business?  This is the intangible which weighs heavily on the decision.  Even if you are not earning enough money in total or enough money per hour, the personal passion factor can outweigh the quantifiable.  If you are so passionate about what you are doing that you would do it even if you were not making any money, then by all means continue.

thinking and feelingThe emotional factor weighs heavily.  What are your priorities?

Analysis:

  1. Financial needs
  2. Future planning
  3. Personal satisfaction

There comes a time when we look at what we are doing and determine the future potential.  If you continue on your current trend, will you reach your retirement goals?  Even more pressing is the question of paying your current bills.

Deciding to grow or go is not easy, quick or non-emotional.  You invested your hard earned capital, brain power, precious time and emotions.  The economic climate changes as does your personal situation.  Deciding to “grow or go” is intense.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

The One Element You Can Always Control

With the world spinning at a crazy pace, what can we actually control?  Probably not politics other than to exercise our right to vote.  Probably not the economy other than to pay close attention to our personal income and expenditures.  Probably not the weather.

What can we control?  We can control our own thoughts, words, actions and our personal attitude.

Improving relationships and peace

Key to better relationships

A bad attitude is like a flat tire.  Change it or you are not going very far, very fast or very smoothly.

Situations happen and not all of them are exactly the way we anticipated or desired.  We cannot always change what has happened but we can always control our attitude.  We have the right, the ability, and the responsibility to control our personal attitude.

We can choose to growl, grumble and complain – none of which will be likely to achieve any positive result for anyone, including ourselves.  We can choose to ignore it and hope that it goes away; that may work for an ostrich which sticks their head in the sand, but not highly recommended for humans.  We can choose to adopt the attitude of “what good can come from this?”

When you intentionally look for the good, you are far more likely to find it.   

You apply to refinance your house.  You go through all of the hoops, loops and mountain of paperwork with assurances that all is well and everything is going forward.  Days, weeks and perhaps a few months drag by only to be ultimately denied.  What can you do?  You can apply to another financial establishment, you can plead your case with this one, or you can go to work correcting whatever element caused you to be denied.  If your credit score was too low, start working on raising it.  If your income was low, find a way to earn more money.  You can adopt the attitude of being appreciative that they flagged you on the items to make your life better.  The situation is the same; it is your attitude which can find the positive now and for the future.

Adopt the same mindset for a big sale, relationship or promotion.  You may have had your heart set on the achievement.  You were already dreaming

Choose your attitude

Choose your attitude

about the future with as a fact.  Take a moment to adjust.  What good can come from this unexpected result?  Could it be that something better is just around the corner?  In any case what benefit is there to you or anyone else by adopting a negative “oh woe is me” attitude?  None.

What good can come from this? 

Though it may feel like it for a short time, no sale, relationship or promotion loss is fatal.

No matter what happens in your daily life, the one element you can always control is your attitude.

“People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.”  John C. Maxwell

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring

Create a legacy

Create a legacy

Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

More Precious than a Valuable Stone

Create a legacy

Create a legacy

When was the last time that something really touched your heart?

There is so much in the news about violence and white collar crime and disaster of every type and so little in comparison of the good.  Friday night was our Rotary Change over dinner.  The current president acknowledged the members who had contributed so much during his term and installed the new president.

The Rotary motto is “Service Above Self.”  This saying was printed on the card which accompanied the Rotarian of the Year award.

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him.  She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.

“I’ve been thinking,” he said. “I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something that is far more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.”

This speaks volumes about what we believe and do as Rotarians.  In the midst of chaos and violence, there is a calm place where giving back to others is valued highly – that is one of the reasons I am a Rotarian.

Did You Know

The first polio epidemic started June 17, 1894.  Polio reached epidemic proportions in the early 1900s.  In 1985 two

Service Above Self

Service Above Self

Rotarians decided to eradicate polio.  By 1994 it was eradicated in the United States.  The Rotary mission continues with Rotarians as boots on the ground around the world and the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation contributing generous financial support.  In 2015 only three countries (Afghanistan, Nigeria and Pakistan) still had any new cases reported.  (These countries has refused to allow us to immunize against Polio for fear we are harming their children; we know we are seeking to protect the children.)

What is this important to you?  This highly contagious crippling disease is only a plane ride away from being back in the United States.  Because of the idea of two Rotarians and the efforts of thousands of Rotarians, your children, grandchildren and generations to come can be free of Polio.

What does this have to do with a precious stone?

It isn’t the stone or the disease.  It is far more precious.  It is the spirit within which enables them to give something even more precious – they give of their time, talent and treasure – they give as they are able.  They are giving freely to help others.  In this case it is the gift of health.

This story touched my heart and resonated deep within.  This is part of why I am a Rotarian.

Think with passion

Speak Up for Good

What can you do?

Mentor someone

Give a smile to a stranger

Give without expectation of return

Plant a tree whose shade you will never enjoy

Live your life to be a legacy you will be proud to pass on to the future.

Give something more precious than a valuable stone.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Beliefs Create Results

Believe in Yourself

Believe in Yourself

How strong is your belief in yourself and your business?  Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”  Bradley Whitford

Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affect your actions and your results.

Belief in Yourself

As a new business owner, it is only natural to have a few nervous moments and hesitations.  You have so many new learning

Grow into your goal

Grow into your goal

experiences all at once.  Your emotions probably run the gamut from extremely excited to puzzled to slightly scared and back to totally optimistic.  If you are like me when I started my first business, your emotions are on a constant roller coaster speeding up and slowing down while climbing and plunging simultaneously.  The one constant in all of that turbulence was the rock solid belief in the future of building a successful business.

Belief in yourself is the foundation of your business.  True, you have to have a solid company and a valuable product you know the marketplace wants, needs and will purchase.

As a team leader you not only have to maintain belief in yourself and your personal ability to continue building a successful business but you also have to work with your team members to help them maintain their belief in themselves and their future.

Life is interesting.  Stone wears away with water.  Wood rots.  People die.  Things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, and a belief endure.  The most fragile in substance is the most powerful and lasting.

Your belief in yourself is the most powerful.  Never let anything take that away from you.

You may have hesitations about how to use a certain software, or the best words to use in an ad, but those are only momentary questions.  Your belief in yourself and your ability to build a successful business remains intact regardless of these momentary hesitations.

Overcoming Monkey Chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

You know those voices in your head which say You can’t do that?  I’ve heard them and so have you.  That chatter is your doubts and fears trying to sabotage your dream.  You have heard them at various times in your life from the time you were quite small.  Those voices are trying to pull your confidence down and break your resolve to succeed.

Your thoughts are your beliefs and your fears doing battle.  Even in a time of crisis, your belief in yourself and your future must be victorious.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability.  It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”  Tony Robbins

So what can you do?

“Believe in yourself and stand for your dream.  Even in the midst of difficult times . . . you need to maintain the confidence and conviction that you can achieve what you want.”

Use the most powerful seconds of your entire day to your fullest advantage.  The first seventeen seconds after you awake from

Create Positive Energy

Create Positive Energy

an alpha sleep and the last few seconds before you drift off into an alpha sleep are the most powerful seconds of your entire day.  Those are the seconds when your subconscious mind is the most receptive to instructions.

What are your thoughts at those times?  How can you help yourself to create more powerful positive opening and closing thoughts?

Create positive habits.

  • Read a few lines of something inspiring, motivating and uplifting just before drifting off to sleep.
  • Read your affirmations or write your affirmations.
  • Look at your dream board.
  • Look at a picture of those you love.
  • Play some soothing music which creates pleasurable images in your mind.

Avoid

  • Watching the news. The media seems to sensationalize the negative events.
  • Watching a television program which contains violence.
  • Arguing with someone or working on something which is difficult or distressing.

If you do not currently engage in a routine which promotes positive final thoughts before drifting off to sleep, seriously consider changing your pre-sleep practices.

Awaking with positive thoughts and images takes a bit more effort, but it is possible.

  • Change your alarm to music. Energizing, soothing or your special song . . . what music you choose is not as important as how you feel when you hear that music.
  • Choose a recording of your children laughing.
  • Choose a recording of your mentor’s words of wisdom.

What you choose is what inspires, motivates and energizes you.

“Working hard is important, but there is something that matters even more . . . Believing in Yourself.”  Harry Potter

Focus on the positive

Focus on the positive

Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.  Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affects your actions and your results.

“Devote yourself to an idea.  Go make it happen.  Struggle on it.  Overcome your fears.  Smile.  Don’t forget: this is your dream.”

When you start your day with positive thoughts and end your day with positive thoughts, you enhance the probability of a positive day.  String enough positive days together and you will build a successful business and a successful life.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Beliefs Create Results

Believe in Yourself

Believe in Yourself

How strong is your belief in yourself and your business?  Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.”  Bradley Whitford

Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affect your actions and your results.

Belief in Yourself

As a new business owner, it is only natural to have a few nervous moments and hesitations.  You have so many new learning

Grow into your goal

Grow into your goal

experiences all at once.  Your emotions probably run the gamut from extremely excited to puzzled to slightly scared and back to totally optimistic.  If you are like me when I started my first business, your emotions are on a constant roller coaster speeding up and slowing down while climbing and plunging simultaneously.  The one constant in all of that turbulence was the rock solid belief in the future of building a successful business.

Belief in yourself is the foundation of your business.  True, you have to have a solid company and a valuable product you know the marketplace wants, needs and will purchase.

As a team leader you not only have to maintain belief in yourself and your personal ability to continue building a successful business but you also have to work with your team members to help them maintain their belief in themselves and their future.

Life is interesting.  Stone wears away with water.  Wood rots.  People die.  Things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, and a belief endure.  The most fragile in substance is the most powerful and lasting.

Your belief in yourself is the most powerful.  Never let anything take that away from you.

You may have hesitations about how to use a certain software, or the best words to use in an ad, but those are only momentary questions.  Your belief in yourself and your ability to build a successful business remains intact regardless of these momentary hesitations.

Overcoming Monkey Chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

Ignore the negative monkey chatter

You know those voices in your head which say You can’t do that?  I’ve heard them and so have you.  That chatter is your doubts and fears trying to sabotage your dream.  You have heard them at various times in your life from the time you were quite small.  Those voices are trying to pull your confidence down and break your resolve to succeed.

Your thoughts are your beliefs and your fears doing battle.  Even in a time of crisis, your belief in yourself and your future must be victorious.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability.  It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.”  Tony Robbins

So what can you do?

“Believe in yourself and stand for your dream.  Even in the midst of difficult times . . . you need to maintain the confidence and conviction that you can achieve what you want.”

Use the most powerful seconds of your entire day to your fullest advantage.  The first seventeen seconds after you awake from

Create Positive Energy

Create Positive Energy

an alpha sleep and the last few seconds before you drift off into an alpha sleep are the most powerful seconds of your entire day.  Those are the seconds when your subconscious mind is the most receptive to instructions.

What are your thoughts at those times?  How can you help yourself to create more powerful positive opening and closing thoughts?

Create positive habits.

  • Read a few lines of something inspiring, motivating and uplifting just before drifting off to sleep.
  • Read your affirmations or write your affirmations.
  • Look at your dream board.
  • Look at a picture of those you love.
  • Play some soothing music which creates pleasurable images in your mind.

Avoid

  • Watching the news. The media seems to sensationalize the negative events.
  • Watching a television program which contains violence.
  • Arguing with someone or working on something which is difficult or distressing.

If you do not currently engage in a routine which promotes positive final thoughts before drifting off to sleep, seriously consider changing your pre-sleep practices.

Awaking with positive thoughts and images takes a bit more effort, but it is possible.

  • Change your alarm to music. Energizing, soothing or your special song . . . what music you choose is not as important as how you feel when you hear that music.
  • Choose a recording of your children laughing.
  • Choose a recording of your mentor’s words of wisdom.

What you choose is what inspires, motivates and energizes you.

“Working hard is important, but there is something that matters even more . . . Believing in Yourself.”  Harry Potter

Focus on the positive

Focus on the positive

Your successful business depends upon your belief in yourself and your ability to build and enhance your successful business.  Building a successful business starts with the strength of your belief.  Your beliefs are the core of your thought patterns.  What you think and feel in your core directly affects your actions and your results.

“Devote yourself to an idea.  Go make it happen.  Struggle on it.  Overcome your fears.  Smile.  Don’t forget: this is your dream.”

When you start your day with positive thoughts and end your day with positive thoughts, you enhance the probability of a positive day.  String enough positive days together and you will build a successful business and a successful life.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Awareness Avoids Misunderstandings

How many times have you ever offended someone or been offended?  No matter how hard we try, being perfect is not likely to happen.

We’re not talking about world peace, though that is a very worthy goal.  We’re not even talking about national peace.  The news media is full of unrest – mostly because conflict sells papers and attracts viewers.  We’re talking about something much closer to home.  We’re talking about those little misunderstandings in the workplace, community, and maybe even at home.

So What’s the Problem?

Peace is Preferable

Peace is Preferable

An offense may have originated as a recognition someone felt they should have received, but didn’t or didn’t receive to the degree they expected.  It may have been a misunderstanding of a word which had a different meaning intended by the speaker than the meaning the receiver attached.  It could have been a gesture which is perfectly fine in one culture and which has a very negative meaning in another culture.

What brings this topic to mind?  Have I just been offended or offended someone?  Not that I know about.  Business is expanding globally.  Awareness and prevention is much easier on the nerves of an entrepreneur growing a successful business, than damage control after an incident.

One of the biggest concerns for a business is that a teammate, business associate or customer may go away upset and we never have the opportunity to clear the misunderstanding.

Prevention is Easier than Damage Control

Business is expanding on a global scale.  The internet has allowed network marketing to become international

Inner Peace

Inner Peace

online marketing.  Other cultures are joining our teams right here within the United States.  When different ethnic backgrounds, different countries of origin and different belief systems combine there is always the opportunity for unintentional misunderstandings.

Gender Sensitivity

Awareness of the potentially sensitive areas can prevent most of the misunderstandings.  We no longer refer to all executives as male; we now say non-gender specific words.   Professional, executive, CEO, business owner or entrepreneur are non-gender specific.  Instead of “salesman” it is now “salesperson.”  The days of the bra burners and public displays of the women’s rights protest meetings of the 1960s has passed but awareness of some lingering sensitive feelings  remain.  It is much easier to be mentally alert and aware of our word choices now rather than do damage control later.

Create Inner Peace

Create Inner Peace

Ethnic Sensitivity

West Side Story depicted a war (rumble) between two different countries of origin.  When the west was first being settled, mixed marriages between Caucasian individuals and native Indian individuals received a barrage of name calling.  Right here in United States, the civil rights issues have been a major concern for years.   We’re still working to level the playing field.

Issues relating to different ethnic backgrounds are not new issues, nor should they be regarded as totally solved and past tense.  Silly little things like the wild west depiction of the cowboys in the white hats and the bank robbers in the black hats was meant as the contrast of good and evil, but we now know that depiction is inappropriate because of ethnic sensitivity.  It was not meant as ethnic at its point of origin.  Little details can have a totally different meaning to one person than they do to another.  Be aware and be sensitive to the feelings of others.

Awareness of the potentially sensitive areas can prevent most of the misunderstandings.

Religious Sensitivity

Peace Promotes Peace

Peace Promotes Peace

Yeah, I know this is a touchy subject not usually discussed in public writing.  That does not mean that it is not important, but rather that it is very important.  As entrepreneurs building a successful business, we must be aware.

When scheduling events, be aware of certain commonly known religious holidays.  Be aware that from sundown on Friday night to sundown on Saturday night is the Sabbath for some.  There was a time in Europe where no business was to be conducted on Sunday.  Weekends are a seemingly common time to schedule events and yet for some that is problematic.  It is almost impossible to schedule a perfect day and time for all, but awareness can prevent accidentally offending someone.

Awareness of the potentially sensitive areas can prevent most of the misunderstandings.

International Sensitivity

Certain gestures are acceptable in one culture which are highly offensive in another.  The hand signal for ok (making a circle of the thumb and forefinger) is intended as a total positive in most uses, but has a very derogatory meaning in some cultures.  In diving that sign is used to show that all is well, because a thumbs up would mean wanting to go to the surface.  Little innocent gestures in one usage can have a totally different and offensive meaning to another.  Being aware can prevent misunderstandings.

peace of mindYeah, I know.  As if you didn’t already have enough to worry about in the process of building a successful business, now you have to be aware of your words and gestures.  If you don’t have time to become aware in order to avoid offending someone, how will you have time to correct the issues after they occur?  It takes far more time for damage control than it does for prevention.

Your intention is building a successful business, not spending your time putting out avoidable emotional fires.

Recognition

One of the easiest issues to prevent is team member recognition.  Making a point of publicly and privately recognizing team members for outstanding achievements can avoid hurt feelings.  As a new business builder, the first sale and other milestone achievements to reach higher levels is very significant to them.  A word from you as team leader can expand their motivation and inspire others to reach higher levels.  A few words of recognition can go a long way toward helping you and your team members in building a successful business.

Awareness of the potentially sensitive areas can prevent most of the misunderstandings and inspire productivity at the same time.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  Let me inspire you to reach your potential.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact.

Strategies for Goal Achievement

Would you like to improve your goal achievement?  Goal setting is easy.  Goal achievement is the ultimate victory.

Write it down.  Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants; can’ts into cans; dreams into plans; and plans into reality.  Don’t just think it…ink it!”

Achieving your goals is important.  The process of achieving them and the person you become in getting there is everything.

See your goal as achieved

See your goal as achieved

3 Strategies for Goal Achieving

  1. Adopt and Maintain a “Can Do” Attitude

 

A positive mindset is the foundation for every successful action.  Success flows first from an emotional basis.  You don’t feel good because you achieve your goals; you reach your goals because you are in a positive emotional mindset.

 

You have heard that you always receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  If you believe in yourself and you are grateful for what you have, you will attract more.  If you are grouchy, pessimistic, depressed, discouraged and “down in the emotional dumps,” you are totally focused on the negative.  Whatever attitude you choose will attract more of the same. You can choose to spiral upward or downward.

 

Now for me, that is an easy choice.  I prefer success.  One of the keys to goal achieving is adopting and maintaining a positive mindset.  You may not have control of everything and everyone in the world, but you always have the ability to control your personal mindset.

 

Challenges occur to all of us.  We are occasionally disappointed in events, circumstances or people (that includes our own personal performance).  We can choose to be emotionally down or we can choose to say “What good can come from this?” and find the potential good.  We can choose to brush it off and say “I’ll do better tomorrow.”  When unexpected results cross our path, we can choose a positive or a negative attitude.

 

When something happens which we did not anticipate or want, we can choose the downward attitude spiral or choose to do a mindset shift.  I prefer success.  I choose a “can do” attitude.

 

  1. Simple Little Success Boosters  Motivating Passwords

 

Change your passwords.  We know with cyber-crime on the rise, it is smart to change our passwords every quarter.  Have a different password for each online account.  I know it is harder to remember the passwords when each one is different, but it reduces the risk of invasion of your accounts.  I use a formula for my passwords and change all of them every quarter.

 

As long as you are changing the passwords anyway, why not change them to something which motivates you?  Pick a word, phrase, aroma, place, sound or sight which lifts your spirits.  Maybe it is a private family phrase or something the kids said when they were small which always brings a smile to your face.  Typing that word as your password (even having to look up the password in order to type it) can reset your attitude to a positive.

 

Use the events of your daily life to continually bring your attitude up to a more positive level.  Accomplish a double purpose of protecting your identity and improving your attitude all at once.  I prefer success.

 

  1. Visualization

 

See Yourself Hit the Target

See Yourself Hit the Target

You know the advantages of visualization and meditation.  You know that your subconscious is a powerful force working to bring you more of whatever you are thinking.  The predominant thought running through your mind acts as an order to your subconscious mind.  The subconscious is powerful but not able to decide what is good for you.  It can only respond to your predominant thoughts.  If you are focusing on, seeing and believing something, the subconscious is programmed to make it come true.

We each possess an awesome power that most of us have not been taught how to use effectively.  Super star athletes use it, mega millionaires use it and top producers use it.  That power is Visualization.  Visualization triggers the subconscious to bring your thoughts into reality.

Visualization works hand in hand with the subconscious mind and the law of attraction.  They are a triple force working together to bring you whatever you are focusing on.

You know about the Law of Attraction.  It was featured in The Secret and numerous other books in the 1980s and 1990s.  There have even been network marketing companies based on the law of attraction.  It is a law, just as gravity is a law.  How do you direct the powerful combination of visualization, subconscious mind and the law of attraction to assist you in achieving your goals?

Activate the Law of Attraction through Visible Images

  1. Picture your goal as achieved. Look at it as if you were watching a movie and you are the star.  You are seeing yourself
    Celebrate Victory

    Celebrate Victory

    in living color with all five senses activated; you are picturing a live scene.  This is real.  Feel the emotions you will feel when you have achieved your ultimate goal.  See the ones you care about beaming with pride for you.  Hear the cheering.  Savor the sweet taste of victory.

 

Hold that image in its entirety in your mind.  Breathe it in and allow it to permeate every cell in your body.  Feel all of the emotions of pleasure.  You have worked and earned this victory.  You have achieved your ultimate goal.  Ingrain it so completely into your being that you can recall it completely at a second’s notice.

 

  1. Create a vision board. Draw or cut out pictures which symbolize your goals.  Post the pictures and words on the board.  Place it where you will see it constantly.  The vision board works similar to the chart on the wall; they both focus your attention and positive expectation of goal achievement.

Take a mental screen shot of your vision board.  Take a photo of the vision board and use it as the screensaver on your smart phone.

  1. Create affirmations of your goals as already achieved. Write them on index cards. Paint them on your bathroom mirror.  Post them on the refrigerator.  Create screensavers or images on your computer screen.  Post them as sticky notes around your desk.

 

Write every affirmation in the positive.  “I am so grateful that. . .”  “I am so excited to be . . .”  “I feel so thrilled that . . .” Adopt the attitude of knowing that your goals could and did come true.  See each goal in your mind as accomplished.

Congratulations

Congratulations

“Nothing is impossible.  The word itself says I’m possible.”

Goal setting is important, but goal achievement is the ultimate victory.  Three strategies to enhance your goal achievement are: adopting and maintaining a positive attitude, using simple success boosters such as changing your passwords, and visualizing your goals through mental/emotional movies, vision boards and affirmations.

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Are You Addicted to Self-Sabotage?

stop-self-sabotage-behaviourAre you the one on the limb?

Self-sabotaging behaviors plague all of us at one time or another.  Dieters do it by reaching for that box of Mother’s Day chocolates, bag of chips or the cookie jar.  Fitness goals are self-sabotaged by rationalizing excuses to skip the gym.  We’ve all done it.

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the false story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”  Jordan Belfort

Self- sabotage is not uncommon or truly unconscious, but it is extremely unproductive.

How Frequently Do We Engage in Self-Sabotage?                          

Frequently self-sabotage is not a conscious decision to engage in self-defeating behavior, it is an unconscious reaction to old programming.  Determining the cause is the first step to stopping this unwanted and highly unproductive behavior.

A talkative mouse, a rat, and a small shrew were trapped in a flood, desperately clinging to the side of a lily pad – and sinking fast! A helpful owl came to their rescue, first telling the rat to clamp its teeth onto its talons as the owl flew to safety and then returning for the shrew, who received similar instructions. Finally, as the tides rose ever higher, the owl came back for our talkative mouse.

 

“You are rescued and will live!” said the owl. “But I’ve noticed you talk a lot. Promise me you’ll keep your mouth closed around my legs and on no account open it, or you’ll fall to your fate!”

“Of course!” said the mouse, who proceeded to clamp his mouth onto his feathered rescuer’s landing gear.

 

They took off and flew across the floods. The owl was about to land on some high ground, but the mouse decided he wanted to alight some other place to get dry.

 

“Not there…” shouted the mouse, but those were the last words he ever spoke as he fell into the swirling waters below. 

 

How frequently are we opening our mouth or our minds to negative thoughts or self-defeating behavior?

 

What Causes Self-Sabotage?self-sabotage

It won’t work out anyway. Failure is a familiar feeling – a bad feeling but an all too familiar feeling to the point that it becomes an expectation.  People stay in abusive personal or professional relationships; people stay in bad marriages; people stay in jobs they don’t like.  Why do people tolerate negative situations?  Sometimes it is rationalized that at least they know what to expect and there may be nothing better out there.  How will you know if you don’t at least try?

This is too good to last.  The unconscious need to be in control kicks in and they quit their job out of fear that they will be promoted and they will fail at the higher level position.  How many times have you heard “Quit while you are ahead.”  Is it a need to be in control or a fear of failing if they move upward?

What happens if I fail?  Fear of failure kicks in when someone wants to start their own business but are afraid of failing as a business owner, so they stay in a job rather than step out of their comfort zone and test their abilities at building a successful business.  They shortchange themselves and their future based on nothing more than self-defeating thoughts – self-sabotage.

self-defeatI don’t deserve to be successful.  Undeservability is a huge issue.  Low self-esteem caused by negative programming as a child may still be plaguing many people in adulthood.  It could be pressure caused by well-meaning adults who thought they were pushing you to do more and achieve more.  This pressure to be perfect (and none of us are perfect 100% of the time) and falling short creates self-defeating thoughts; it manifests in a feeling of not achieving enough so success must not be deserved.

Bad habits.  Over eating, chemical abuse, anger or negative self-talk can all be ways of temporarily masking low self-esteem. We know better but do it anyway.  Self-sabotage.

I used to think I was poor. Then they told me I wasn’t poor, I was needy. Then they told me it was self-defeating to think of myself as needy. I was deprived. (Oh not deprived but rather underprivileged.) Then they told me that underprivileged was overused. I was disadvantaged. I still don’t have a dime. But I have a great vocabulary.”  Jules Feiffer

Cures for Self-Sabotage

Awareness.  You can’t cure what you don’t know exists.  Forget about justifying, rationalizing or making award self-sabotageexcuses.  Make a conscious decision to observe your thoughts and actions.  When you catch yourself engaging in self-sabotage, pause what you are doing and think about why you are thinking or acting in that way.  You can’t change something unless you notice what you are doing and attempt to determine why.  This is not about blame; it is about stopping self-sabotage.

Success is Not All or Nothing.  Building a successful business is a matter of placing ads which contain the right words to attract your target audience; ideally these ads are in the publications where your target audience is most likely to see them.  In addition the unknown factor is timing the ads to appear at the moment when the target audience is most receptive to your message.  Hitting 100% of those factors 100% of the time is not likely.  Missing the timing occasionally does not mean failure; it may only mean a temporary delay.  Success in writing and placing ads is not all or nothing; it may mean filling the prospect pipeline for later.

Cut Yourself Some Slack.  Perfectionism is overrated.  You are probably making a greater positive impression on people than you know.  You are probably doing a better job than you give yourself credit for doing.  Set a goal to better your best.  It doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, it just means that you have to strive to constantly improve.  A continual one percent improvement every three days is still 100% improvement in a year.  Set a goal of 1% per day and you will be 365% better in a year.

steps to successSelf-Sabotage is Self-Defeating

Be aware of what you are doing and why; why are you destroying yourself and your goal achievement.  You deserve to be successful.  You deserve to be building a successful business instead of being stuck in a dead end job with a boss who does not appreciate you.  Success is not perfection; success is continually bettering your own best.  Get out of your own way and achieve your goals.  You can do it!  Self-sabotage is for losers; you are a winner.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact, (reprint of an article written for Rod Davis)

The Goal is Bettering Your Best

Who do you compete against?  You might say your team members, other leaders in the company, or other companies.  What if you thought about competing against yourself?  What if your goal every day was not focused on those outside but instead focused on yourself?  Yes, normally I’ve said not to focus on yourself but others.  In this case, focus on yourself and better your own best.

Lead, follow or step aside

Lead, follow or step aside

When you focus on all of the people and factors outside, it is easy to be overwhelmed.  There are factors such as the economy, the job market and the weather which you cannot personally control.  Being powerless and out of control is not a feeling entrepreneurs building a successful business readily identify with; they certainly do not strive for a feeling of being a victim or being powerless.

You have 100% absolute total control of competing against yourself.  You are in control of striving to better your own personal best.

“I am in competition with no one.  I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone.  I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday.”

Better Your Best

Of course you observe what your co-workers, team mates and the other companies are doing, but the focus is always on bettering your own personal best.  Focus on improving your own statistics and suddenly you glance at the leader board and everyone is chasing you.

Athletes strive to shave seconds off of their time, score more points through improving their techniques, and increase their endurance in order to perform at their best for longer periods of time.

In network marketing we track our ads placed, leads generated, follow up contacts, and sales generated.  We monitor our marketing costs in relation to revenue generated.  Our goal is always to improve our own individual statistics.  Statistics do not make you profitable but statistics are a quantitative method of measuring your progress in building a successful business.

Beauty of a rose

Symbol of beauty and appreciation.

Think Like a Flower   

“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.”

Concentrate on your own blooming success.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

When you focus on improving yourself through personal development and professional skill development, you will automatically improve.

It is not a matter of having the latest and greatest iPhone or software, though having the best tools does help; it is a matter of improving your skills in utilizing that software.  It is about improving your skills.  It is about bettering your own personal best.

golf lessonA golfer was struggling to improve his score.  As he was considering yet another purchase of new clubs, the pro came by and casually said, “It’s not the clubs.  Instead of buying new clubs, take lessons.”  

In network marketing, owning the most efficient and most applicable software certainly helps.  Owning it isn’t enough, it is learning how to use it most effectively which makes the difference.  It isn’t the software; it is your own skills.  Take lessons from your mentor/sponsor and improve your own skills.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

“Competition is a good thing; it forces us to do our best.”

Your own personal competition is the best motivator possible.

One day you will look at the leader board and discover that everyone is chasing you.  That is a good thing because the more time they spend trying to figure out what you are doing and analyzing your performance, the less time they are spending on developing their own skills.  You continue bettering your own personal best and continue leaping forward building a successful business.

“The moment you become wrapped up in worrying about competition, you’ve missed the message of your own destiny.”  Valarie Hurst

But how????

The most direct method of improving your statistics and thus your results is to select one aspect at a time.

Select the top item on your “I want to be better at this” list.

If you are time-challenged and need to maximize your productivity during your limited time availability, select an efficiency generating software.  Once selected, contact your sponsor immediately and learn all of the nuances of the software.  Software by itself is similar to a book on your bookshelf which you never open – money spent without value gained.

Contact your sponsor and learn the most efficient and productive ways to implement the software.  Time, money and energy are all critical to the entrepreneur building a successful business.  You can purchase the best software on the market, but until you use it in to its fullest capability, it is just money spent.  Learn the best tricks, tips and techniques to use the software and then go do it.  It’s putting it into action with knowledge which makes it valuable software.

It is not a fact of ownership, but of skilled implementation of the knowledge combined with the ownership which is most productive.

Master it and Move On

mirror“We are really competing against ourselves; we have no control over how others perform.”  Pete Cashmore

When you have mastered one element on your chosen improvement list, select another.  Roll up your sleeves and start working.  Check them off one by one.  Personal development and professional skill development are your keys to building a successful business.

“The only way to succeed is to not worry about what anyone else is doing.” 

The Key to Success is Constantly Bettering Your Own Personal Best

Make a list of skills you choose to improve.  Achieve them one by one.  As long as you are focused on bettering your own personal best at all times, you are building a successful business and a successful person.  Don’t worry about what others are doing.

“Look in the mirror. . .that’s your competition.”

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Friends Without Faces

Friends Without Faces

We sit and we type and we stare at our screens,
We can’t help but wonder what all of this means.
With mouse in hand …we roam through this maze,
On an infinite search…lost in a daze.

We chat with each other, we type all our woes
At times we’ll band together to gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody, to type out our name
We want recognition, but it is always the same.

Soon friendships are formed – but – why we don’t know,
But some of these friendships, will flourish and grow.
We give kisses and hugs, and sometimes we’ll flirt,
In IMs we chat deeply, and reveal why we hurt.

Why is it on screen, we are so easily bold,
Telling our secrets, that have never been told.
The answer is simple, it is as clear as a bell,
We all have our problems, and need someone to tell.

We can’t tell real people, but tell someone we must
So we turn to our ‘puters …and to those we can trust.
Even though it sounds crazy…the truth still remains,
Most of my “friends” have no faces…and odd little names.

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