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Strategies for Goal Achievement

Would you like to improve your goal achievement?  Goal setting is easy.  Goal achievement is the ultimate victory.

Write it down.  Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants; can’ts into cans; dreams into plans; and plans into reality.  Don’t just think it…ink it!”

Achieving your goals is important.  The process of achieving them and the person you become in getting there is everything.

See your goal as achieved

See your goal as achieved

3 Strategies for Goal Achieving

  1. Adopt and Maintain a “Can Do” Attitude

 

A positive mindset is the foundation for every successful action.  Success flows first from an emotional basis.  You don’t feel good because you achieve your goals; you reach your goals because you are in a positive emotional mindset.

 

You have heard that you always receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  If you believe in yourself and you are grateful for what you have, you will attract more.  If you are grouchy, pessimistic, depressed, discouraged and “down in the emotional dumps,” you are totally focused on the negative.  Whatever attitude you choose will attract more of the same. You can choose to spiral upward or downward.

 

Now for me, that is an easy choice.  I prefer success.  One of the keys to goal achieving is adopting and maintaining a positive mindset.  You may not have control of everything and everyone in the world, but you always have the ability to control your personal mindset.

 

Challenges occur to all of us.  We are occasionally disappointed in events, circumstances or people (that includes our own personal performance).  We can choose to be emotionally down or we can choose to say “What good can come from this?” and find the potential good.  We can choose to brush it off and say “I’ll do better tomorrow.”  When unexpected results cross our path, we can choose a positive or a negative attitude.

 

When something happens which we did not anticipate or want, we can choose the downward attitude spiral or choose to do a mindset shift.  I prefer success.  I choose a “can do” attitude.

 

  1. Simple Little Success Boosters  Motivating Passwords

 

Change your passwords.  We know with cyber-crime on the rise, it is smart to change our passwords every quarter.  Have a different password for each online account.  I know it is harder to remember the passwords when each one is different, but it reduces the risk of invasion of your accounts.  I use a formula for my passwords and change all of them every quarter.

 

As long as you are changing the passwords anyway, why not change them to something which motivates you?  Pick a word, phrase, aroma, place, sound or sight which lifts your spirits.  Maybe it is a private family phrase or something the kids said when they were small which always brings a smile to your face.  Typing that word as your password (even having to look up the password in order to type it) can reset your attitude to a positive.

 

Use the events of your daily life to continually bring your attitude up to a more positive level.  Accomplish a double purpose of protecting your identity and improving your attitude all at once.  I prefer success.

 

  1. Visualization

 

See Yourself Hit the Target

See Yourself Hit the Target

You know the advantages of visualization and meditation.  You know that your subconscious is a powerful force working to bring you more of whatever you are thinking.  The predominant thought running through your mind acts as an order to your subconscious mind.  The subconscious is powerful but not able to decide what is good for you.  It can only respond to your predominant thoughts.  If you are focusing on, seeing and believing something, the subconscious is programmed to make it come true.

We each possess an awesome power that most of us have not been taught how to use effectively.  Super star athletes use it, mega millionaires use it and top producers use it.  That power is Visualization.  Visualization triggers the subconscious to bring your thoughts into reality.

Visualization works hand in hand with the subconscious mind and the law of attraction.  They are a triple force working together to bring you whatever you are focusing on.

You know about the Law of Attraction.  It was featured in The Secret and numerous other books in the 1980s and 1990s.  There have even been network marketing companies based on the law of attraction.  It is a law, just as gravity is a law.  How do you direct the powerful combination of visualization, subconscious mind and the law of attraction to assist you in achieving your goals?

Activate the Law of Attraction through Visible Images

  1. Picture your goal as achieved. Look at it as if you were watching a movie and you are the star.  You are seeing yourself
    Celebrate Victory

    Celebrate Victory

    in living color with all five senses activated; you are picturing a live scene.  This is real.  Feel the emotions you will feel when you have achieved your ultimate goal.  See the ones you care about beaming with pride for you.  Hear the cheering.  Savor the sweet taste of victory.

 

Hold that image in its entirety in your mind.  Breathe it in and allow it to permeate every cell in your body.  Feel all of the emotions of pleasure.  You have worked and earned this victory.  You have achieved your ultimate goal.  Ingrain it so completely into your being that you can recall it completely at a second’s notice.

 

  1. Create a vision board. Draw or cut out pictures which symbolize your goals.  Post the pictures and words on the board.  Place it where you will see it constantly.  The vision board works similar to the chart on the wall; they both focus your attention and positive expectation of goal achievement.

Take a mental screen shot of your vision board.  Take a photo of the vision board and use it as the screensaver on your smart phone.

  1. Create affirmations of your goals as already achieved. Write them on index cards. Paint them on your bathroom mirror.  Post them on the refrigerator.  Create screensavers or images on your computer screen.  Post them as sticky notes around your desk.

 

Write every affirmation in the positive.  “I am so grateful that. . .”  “I am so excited to be . . .”  “I feel so thrilled that . . .” Adopt the attitude of knowing that your goals could and did come true.  See each goal in your mind as accomplished.

Congratulations

Congratulations

“Nothing is impossible.  The word itself says I’m possible.”

Goal setting is important, but goal achievement is the ultimate victory.  Three strategies to enhance your goal achievement are: adopting and maintaining a positive attitude, using simple success boosters such as changing your passwords, and visualizing your goals through mental/emotional movies, vision boards and affirmations.

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Are You Addicted to Self-Sabotage?

stop-self-sabotage-behaviourAre you the one on the limb?

Self-sabotaging behaviors plague all of us at one time or another.  Dieters do it by reaching for that box of Mother’s Day chocolates, bag of chips or the cookie jar.  Fitness goals are self-sabotaged by rationalizing excuses to skip the gym.  We’ve all done it.

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the false story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”  Jordan Belfort

Self- sabotage is not uncommon or truly unconscious, but it is extremely unproductive.

How Frequently Do We Engage in Self-Sabotage?                          

Frequently self-sabotage is not a conscious decision to engage in self-defeating behavior, it is an unconscious reaction to old programming.  Determining the cause is the first step to stopping this unwanted and highly unproductive behavior.

A talkative mouse, a rat, and a small shrew were trapped in a flood, desperately clinging to the side of a lily pad – and sinking fast! A helpful owl came to their rescue, first telling the rat to clamp its teeth onto its talons as the owl flew to safety and then returning for the shrew, who received similar instructions. Finally, as the tides rose ever higher, the owl came back for our talkative mouse.

 

“You are rescued and will live!” said the owl. “But I’ve noticed you talk a lot. Promise me you’ll keep your mouth closed around my legs and on no account open it, or you’ll fall to your fate!”

“Of course!” said the mouse, who proceeded to clamp his mouth onto his feathered rescuer’s landing gear.

 

They took off and flew across the floods. The owl was about to land on some high ground, but the mouse decided he wanted to alight some other place to get dry.

 

“Not there…” shouted the mouse, but those were the last words he ever spoke as he fell into the swirling waters below. 

 

How frequently are we opening our mouth or our minds to negative thoughts or self-defeating behavior?

 

What Causes Self-Sabotage?self-sabotage

It won’t work out anyway. Failure is a familiar feeling – a bad feeling but an all too familiar feeling to the point that it becomes an expectation.  People stay in abusive personal or professional relationships; people stay in bad marriages; people stay in jobs they don’t like.  Why do people tolerate negative situations?  Sometimes it is rationalized that at least they know what to expect and there may be nothing better out there.  How will you know if you don’t at least try?

This is too good to last.  The unconscious need to be in control kicks in and they quit their job out of fear that they will be promoted and they will fail at the higher level position.  How many times have you heard “Quit while you are ahead.”  Is it a need to be in control or a fear of failing if they move upward?

What happens if I fail?  Fear of failure kicks in when someone wants to start their own business but are afraid of failing as a business owner, so they stay in a job rather than step out of their comfort zone and test their abilities at building a successful business.  They shortchange themselves and their future based on nothing more than self-defeating thoughts – self-sabotage.

self-defeatI don’t deserve to be successful.  Undeservability is a huge issue.  Low self-esteem caused by negative programming as a child may still be plaguing many people in adulthood.  It could be pressure caused by well-meaning adults who thought they were pushing you to do more and achieve more.  This pressure to be perfect (and none of us are perfect 100% of the time) and falling short creates self-defeating thoughts; it manifests in a feeling of not achieving enough so success must not be deserved.

Bad habits.  Over eating, chemical abuse, anger or negative self-talk can all be ways of temporarily masking low self-esteem. We know better but do it anyway.  Self-sabotage.

I used to think I was poor. Then they told me I wasn’t poor, I was needy. Then they told me it was self-defeating to think of myself as needy. I was deprived. (Oh not deprived but rather underprivileged.) Then they told me that underprivileged was overused. I was disadvantaged. I still don’t have a dime. But I have a great vocabulary.”  Jules Feiffer

Cures for Self-Sabotage

Awareness.  You can’t cure what you don’t know exists.  Forget about justifying, rationalizing or making award self-sabotageexcuses.  Make a conscious decision to observe your thoughts and actions.  When you catch yourself engaging in self-sabotage, pause what you are doing and think about why you are thinking or acting in that way.  You can’t change something unless you notice what you are doing and attempt to determine why.  This is not about blame; it is about stopping self-sabotage.

Success is Not All or Nothing.  Building a successful business is a matter of placing ads which contain the right words to attract your target audience; ideally these ads are in the publications where your target audience is most likely to see them.  In addition the unknown factor is timing the ads to appear at the moment when the target audience is most receptive to your message.  Hitting 100% of those factors 100% of the time is not likely.  Missing the timing occasionally does not mean failure; it may only mean a temporary delay.  Success in writing and placing ads is not all or nothing; it may mean filling the prospect pipeline for later.

Cut Yourself Some Slack.  Perfectionism is overrated.  You are probably making a greater positive impression on people than you know.  You are probably doing a better job than you give yourself credit for doing.  Set a goal to better your best.  It doesn’t mean you have to be perfect, it just means that you have to strive to constantly improve.  A continual one percent improvement every three days is still 100% improvement in a year.  Set a goal of 1% per day and you will be 365% better in a year.

steps to successSelf-Sabotage is Self-Defeating

Be aware of what you are doing and why; why are you destroying yourself and your goal achievement.  You deserve to be successful.  You deserve to be building a successful business instead of being stuck in a dead end job with a boss who does not appreciate you.  Success is not perfection; success is continually bettering your own best.  Get out of your own way and achieve your goals.  You can do it!  Self-sabotage is for losers; you are a winner.

Are you seeking more success in your life and career? Inquire about hiring Elaine Love for your next sales training, executive meeting or personal growth presentation.  www.Elaine4Success.com, www.Elaine4Success.com/contact, (reprint of an article written for Rod Davis)

The Goal is Bettering Your Best

Who do you compete against?  You might say your team members, other leaders in the company, or other companies.  What if you thought about competing against yourself?  What if your goal every day was not focused on those outside but instead focused on yourself?  Yes, normally I’ve said not to focus on yourself but others.  In this case, focus on yourself and better your own best.

Lead, follow or step aside

Lead, follow or step aside

When you focus on all of the people and factors outside, it is easy to be overwhelmed.  There are factors such as the economy, the job market and the weather which you cannot personally control.  Being powerless and out of control is not a feeling entrepreneurs building a successful business readily identify with; they certainly do not strive for a feeling of being a victim or being powerless.

You have 100% absolute total control of competing against yourself.  You are in control of striving to better your own personal best.

“I am in competition with no one.  I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone.  I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday.”

Better Your Best

Of course you observe what your co-workers, team mates and the other companies are doing, but the focus is always on bettering your own personal best.  Focus on improving your own statistics and suddenly you glance at the leader board and everyone is chasing you.

Athletes strive to shave seconds off of their time, score more points through improving their techniques, and increase their endurance in order to perform at their best for longer periods of time.

In network marketing we track our ads placed, leads generated, follow up contacts, and sales generated.  We monitor our marketing costs in relation to revenue generated.  Our goal is always to improve our own individual statistics.  Statistics do not make you profitable but statistics are a quantitative method of measuring your progress in building a successful business.

Beauty of a rose

Symbol of beauty and appreciation.

Think Like a Flower   

“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.”

Concentrate on your own blooming success.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

When you focus on improving yourself through personal development and professional skill development, you will automatically improve.

It is not a matter of having the latest and greatest iPhone or software, though having the best tools does help; it is a matter of improving your skills in utilizing that software.  It is about improving your skills.  It is about bettering your own personal best.

golf lessonA golfer was struggling to improve his score.  As he was considering yet another purchase of new clubs, the pro came by and casually said, “It’s not the clubs.  Instead of buying new clubs, take lessons.”  

In network marketing, owning the most efficient and most applicable software certainly helps.  Owning it isn’t enough, it is learning how to use it most effectively which makes the difference.  It isn’t the software; it is your own skills.  Take lessons from your mentor/sponsor and improve your own skills.  Focus on bettering your own personal best.

“Competition is a good thing; it forces us to do our best.”

Your own personal competition is the best motivator possible.

One day you will look at the leader board and discover that everyone is chasing you.  That is a good thing because the more time they spend trying to figure out what you are doing and analyzing your performance, the less time they are spending on developing their own skills.  You continue bettering your own personal best and continue leaping forward building a successful business.

“The moment you become wrapped up in worrying about competition, you’ve missed the message of your own destiny.”  Valarie Hurst

But how????

The most direct method of improving your statistics and thus your results is to select one aspect at a time.

Select the top item on your “I want to be better at this” list.

If you are time-challenged and need to maximize your productivity during your limited time availability, select an efficiency generating software.  Once selected, contact your sponsor immediately and learn all of the nuances of the software.  Software by itself is similar to a book on your bookshelf which you never open – money spent without value gained.

Contact your sponsor and learn the most efficient and productive ways to implement the software.  Time, money and energy are all critical to the entrepreneur building a successful business.  You can purchase the best software on the market, but until you use it in to its fullest capability, it is just money spent.  Learn the best tricks, tips and techniques to use the software and then go do it.  It’s putting it into action with knowledge which makes it valuable software.

It is not a fact of ownership, but of skilled implementation of the knowledge combined with the ownership which is most productive.

Master it and Move On

mirror“We are really competing against ourselves; we have no control over how others perform.”  Pete Cashmore

When you have mastered one element on your chosen improvement list, select another.  Roll up your sleeves and start working.  Check them off one by one.  Personal development and professional skill development are your keys to building a successful business.

“The only way to succeed is to not worry about what anyone else is doing.” 

The Key to Success is Constantly Bettering Your Own Personal Best

Make a list of skills you choose to improve.  Achieve them one by one.  As long as you are focused on bettering your own personal best at all times, you are building a successful business and a successful person.  Don’t worry about what others are doing.

“Look in the mirror. . .that’s your competition.”

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