Archive for December, 2014

Time to Go Fishing

Relationships play a significant role in personal and professional success.

Beauty of a rose

Symbol of beauty and appreciation.

Relationships within a business impact the culture of the organization.  In the final analysis, attitudes are the core of all relationships.

“Relationships never die a natural death.  They are always murdered by attitude, behavior, ego, misunderstanding or ignorance.” 

Attitude and the manner in which it is displayed can enhance or destroy a relationship.  There is a quote “My attitude toward you depends on you.”  Conversely, the attitude of others toward you depends on your attitude toward them.  Relationships are a two sided coin; both parties are responsible for the result.  We can never control the feelings and behaviors of the other person, but we can certainly take responsibility for our own attitude and actions.

Paul Oldaker, internationally renowned hydro geologist, wrote “I went fishing and caught a new attitude.”  In order to improve the quality of our relationships, sometimes it is wise to go fishing for an attitude adjustment.

“Attitudes are contagious.  Make yours worth catching.”

We are each responsible for our own attitude.  The blame game is alive and active in relationships; the core of all relationships is individual attitude.

If you are like me, it is occasionally necessary to do an attitude analysis; the most significant determination is usually a self-analysis.  I admit that occasionally I am the one who needs to catch a new attitude.  Long hours, busy schedules, and stress can cause attitude deterioration.

“A bad attitude is like a flat tire.  If you don’t change it, you’ll never go anywhere.”

When was the last time you went (or should have gone) fishing for a new attitude?

Attitude Adjustment

What is your most effective attitude adjustment?

For me it is to step back and take an objective look at the cause of my attitude.  A friend of mine once told me that he used HALT as his guideline.

HALT = Hungry – Angry – Lonely – Tired

Overloaded schedules and tight time frames are perfect opportunities to reach for fast food or snacks rather than balanced nutritious meals.  Poor nutrition leads to low energy and reaching for the Tums.  Stock your office refrigerator with carrots, apples or other healthy snacks rather than attacking the candy dish.

Anger can be a killer emotion.  Anger rarely solves any issue; it frequently makes the situation worse.  The major portion of the destruction is personal damage to the angry individual.  Feuds between nations and individuals have lasted for generations.  In many cases these prolonged conflicts could have been prevented or at least mitigated by both parties catching a new attitude.

Lonely can be solved by doing something thoughtful for someone else.

Production increases dramatically when you are rested and refreshed.

Frequently negotiations get deadlocked by an inability or unwillingness to consider the opposite point of view or an inability or unwillingness to accept personal responsibility.

The solution is clear, but not easy to do.  Go fishing for a new attitude.

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Success is a Wild Wonderful Adventure

Leadership brings with it the opportunity to inspire and empower.

Leadership is putting into practice our philosophies, vision and life ethics.  It is more than the words we say, but our words and actions linger as our impression on the lives of others.  Building a successful business is a delicate, yet indelible image.

Actions create results; the inspiration and empowerment for those results begins with significant words of wisdom.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”  Maya AngelouJim Rohn

I’ve been writing about the icons of industry.  Here are some of my favorite words of wisdom from the masters of business.

“You’ve got to find what you love.  Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.  The only way to do great work is to love what you do.  If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.  Don’t settle.”  Steve Jobs

“Genius is one percent inspiration, ninety-nine percent perspiration.” Thomas Edison

Young Thomas Edison

I never did a days work in my life. It was all fun.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”  Henry Ford

“The cost of being wrong is less than the cost of doing nothing.”  Seth Godin

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules.  You learn by doing and falling over.”  Richard Branson

“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”  Zig Ziglar

“As long as you are going to be thinking anyway, think big.”  Donald Trump

Put Fun on your Priority list

De-stress – Add Fun to Your Life

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”  Walt Disney

This last one has been posted on my office wall for decades.

“Excellence is:

The result of caring more than others think is wise

Risking more than others think is safe

Dreaming more than others think is practical and

Expecting more than others think is possible.”

As an entrepreneur building a successful business, select your favorite words of wisdom from the masters and create your own for future generations.

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You Choose

“Empowerment is being aware that there is no one to blame for my

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

Your thoughts create or remove emotional blocks

choices and actions; that I have a personal choice and responsibility for my life.”  Steve Maraboli

Success is not about the outside world.  Great leaders, outstanding entrepreneurs and star athletes have come from very humble beginnings.  There is a special something inside which nudges, encourages, tempts and pushes until you yield to the pressure and pursue your dream.  There is a spark inside which is struggling to become a flame. You have a choice to let it flicker and eventually die or to fan the flame and allow it to come alive.

Life is a series of choices.  The differences between the successful and the not-so-successful are the choices we make and the actions we take.  Life is in constant motion.  Doors open, but they do not stay open forever; eventually they close.

Success is in the Alphabet

Success is not about blame, benefits or benefactors; it is about the choices, chances and changes.  Make a choice in order to take advantage of a chance to make a positive change.  The secret to building a successful business and building a successful life is to make a choice and get started.

The key to becoming successful is to make choices based on your dreams, passions, and goals.  Make a choice, take a chance and take the action to make the change.

The beauty of choices is that today is a new day, a new beginning and a new opportunity to make new choices.  Choices are our opportunities, maybe not for a mulligan (a do over), but always for a new starting point.  As far as I know, there is no way to go back in time and “do over” the past, but we can always start from where we are and go forward.

Andy Andrews was an angry orphan who was broke and living under a bridge as a young boy.  A mentor advised him to go to the library and start reading.  Andy took the advice and started making different choices in his life.  Today Andy is a best-selling author, professional speaker, and very successful entrepreneur.

His life radically improved when he changed his choices and took the action to transform his life.  (Read The Travelers Gift, and The Noticer. These are only two of dozens of books by Andy.)

“One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is the empowerment to create a life filled with purposeful, enjoyable work, and relationships they hold dear.”  Sarah L. Cook

As entrepreneurs building a successful business, we have the right and responsibility to empower our co-workers as well as our families and ourselves.  Create a success plan and take the action to make it come alive.

You don’t have to be good to start.  You do have to start to be good.

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It’s Your Future

“Making a big life change is pretty scary.  Know what is scarier? 

Lead, follow or step aside

Lead, follow or step aside


New Year’s resolutions and 2015 business goals are just around the corner.  This is the time of year we reflect on what is and what has been.  We ask ourselves what we truly want for our future.

  • What do you really love about your life right now?
  • What don’t you like about your life right now?
  • What would you like to be different about your life for the future?

Do you want to spend the rest of your life doing exactly what you are doing now or do you want a chance to change the world?

I hear your mind saying, “Oh I can’t change the world.”  Really?

“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.

I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.

When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town.

I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family.

My family and I could have made an impact on our town.

Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”  Salanter – Nineteenth Century Professor

You can indeed change the world.  All change starts with within ourselves.  It may be scary, exhilarating or inspiring. Someone is looking to you for guidance.  You are a role model to someone.  Your life is your message, your example.  Is it the inspiration you want it to be?  It can be.  On an even more personal level, are you living the life you want to live?

New Year – New Opportunity

I remember when I realized that I was spending my time, talent and energy making someone else rich.  Yes, I really enjoyed my job and I had a fantastic boss.  He and I both secretly knew that someday I would have my own business.  I have never regretted becoming an entrepreneur.  It is my passion.

“There are three simple rules in life

  1. If you do not GO after what you want, you’ll never have it.


  1. If you do not ask, the answer will always be NO.


  1. If you do not step FORWARD, you will always be in the same place.

You really do have the power, the right and the responsibility to yourself to reach for your dreams.  What you choose to do about it is your decision.


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