Archive for February, 2014

Good Things Still Happen

 Our  14-year-old dog Abbey died last month.
The day after she passed away my 4-year-old daughter Meredith was crying and talking about how much she missed Abbey.
She asked if we  could write a letter to God so that when Abbey got to heaven,  God would recognize her. 

    I told her that I thought  we could so, and she dictated these  words:

Dear  God,

Will  you please take care of my dog?
She died  yesterday and is with you in heaven.
I  miss her very much.
I ‘m happy that you  let me have her as my dog even though she got sick.
I  hope you will play with her.
She likes to  swim and play with balls.
I am sending a  picture of her so when you see her you will know that she is  my dog.
I really miss  her.

Love,  Meredith

We  put the letter in an envelope with a picture of Abbey &  Meredith , addressed it to God/Heaven.   We put our  return address on it.   Meredith pasted several  stamps on the front of the envelope because she said it would  take lots of stamps to get the letter all the way to heaven.  That afternoon she dropped it into the letter box at the post  office.   A few days later, she asked if God had  gotten the letter yet.   I told her that I thought  He had.

Yesterday, there was a package wrapped in gold  paper on our front porch addressed, ‘To Meredith’ in an  unfamiliar hand.
Meredith opened  it.   Inside was a book by Mr. Rogers called, ‘When  a Pet Dies.’   Taped to the inside front cover was  the letter we had written to God in its opened  envelope.   On the opposite page was the picture of  Abbey & Meredith and this  note:

Dear  Meredith,

Abbey  arrived safely in heaven. Having the picture was a big help  and I recognized her right away.  Abbey isn’t sick  anymore.   Her spirit is here with me just like it  stays in your heart.   Abbey loved being your  dog.  Since we don’t need our bodies in heaven, I don’t  have any pockets to keep your picture in so I’m sending it  back to you in this little book for you to keep and have  something to remember Abbey by.  Thank you for the  beautiful letter and thank your mother for helping you write  it and sending it to me.
What a wonderful  mother you have.   I picked her especially for  you.   I send my blessings every day and remember  that I love you very much.   By the way, I’m easy to  find.   I am wherever there is  love.


Positive Role Model

Confession:  I am a devout Kansas Chiefs football fan.

Lance Armstrong’s use of performance drugs, Jonathan Martin’s mistreatment at the hands of Richie Incognito and some of his other Dolphins teammates, and the multiple rape allegations against Pro Bowl safety Darren Sharper all disillusion youngsters and adults about their sports heroes.   OJ Simpson, Tiger Woods and numerous other sports legends have crumpled their pedestals.

I know, negative news sells.  The media dwells on negative news because it draws public attention.

Iv’e always said, if it is bad enough to complain about, it is bad enough to do something about.

Alex Smith is a Positive Role Model

Positive Role Model On and Off the Field

Positive Role Model

Here is an excerpt from a recent Arrowhead Addict article.

While not highly publicized, Kansas City Chiefs quarterback Alex Smith founded and continues to run one of the most highly successful non-profit charity foundations in the country. As much as I recommended Mark Schlereth’s piece on the culture of the NFL, I would equally recommend this piece by Eric Branch at titled “Alex Smith Gave His All – Off The Field, Too” It breaks down not only what Smith’s foundation does, but his motivations for doing it. In case my endorsement isn’t enough, here’s the beginning of the piece to get your attention:

There is Marquis Blount, who grew up fatherless with a drug-addled mother.

And Sade Burrell, who went to elementary school dotted with bruises from beatings her mother delivered with a broomstick.

And Cece Hollis, who, at 16, called social services to escape from a mother who neglected and abused her and a younger sister.

And there are 20 other young men and women whose childhoods were ravaged by pain and abandonment. Former foster teens, they’re now college graduates thanks to Alex Smith and his foundation.

Basically, Smith started a foundation like so many other NFL players have, but Smith wanted to make sure that his foundation wasn’t “just another NFL player foundation”. His foundation helps foster kids attend college. The following quote is from a shortSam Mellinger piece on the same topic:

“I’ve been to so many deals with so many of my peers,” Smith says. “I hate to say it, but you go and it’s some tournament or big party or dinner, and you don’t even know what you’re raising money for. It’s like, ‘Oh, it’s for the kids.’ Thanks. But what are you doing?”

In other words, Alex Smith didn’t want to just throw some party and pass the money along to a charity and not ever know what came of it. Instead he funded his foundation with his own money and put his family to work making sure it really made a real tangible difference in the lives of those that he was able to meet through the foundation. He and his family actually get to know the kids in the program, it’s personal, and his success rate is through the roof. The results were so successful in fact, that others have studied his foundation to try and copy it’s methods. While his family has helped run the day to day operations, Smith is far from a silent partner. Also from the SFgate piece:

To lobby for changes to the child-welfare system, he has traveled to Washington, D.C., testified before a state Senate panel in Sacramento and co-written editorials. He’s spoken at national conferences in Tampa, Fla., and Kansas City to share the blueprint of his foundation, which has counted his sister, Abbey, and his mother as its unpaid executive directors.

Just like his football persona, Alex Smith isn’t flashy. He isn’t looking for the spotlight or to self promote. He sees a job that needs done and he is confident that he can be the guy to get that job done. A lot has been made of Smith’s efficiency at playing quarterback. It turns out that he’s even better at helping youth who have been lost in the system to turn their lives around than he is at not throwing interceptions. When he looks back at his life and career, I’m guessing it won’t be his ability to protect the football that he’ll take the most pride in.

That’s the kind of guy that I trust with a big contract. If Alex Smith does get a new contract from the Chiefs you can rest assured he won’t see it as a reason to take his foot off the gas pedal. It will just be more resources that he can contribute to helping those that weren’t blessed with the same upbringing that he was. KC fans may not all agree with Smith’s status as the Chiefs starting quarterback moving forward, but we should all agree that off the field Smith is all that you could ask for, and then some.

Chiefs Promote Positive Role Models

I have heard for years that Kansas City Chiefs players are very strongly requested to be involved in community service.  I’ve been a Chiefs fan since 1968 and still am a Chiefs fan.  Yes, I like the team but more than anything is my respect for what they stand for.  Our kids need positive role models.  If they can’t look up to sports heroes, religious leaders, parents and teachers, where are they expected to find positive role models?  We are each responsible for being a positive role model and promoting positive role models.

Be the Positive Role Model you want your kids to admire and emulate.   Promote positive role models.

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Priorities – Its a Head Game

Commit to a positive mindset

Commit to a positive mindset

Techniques do not work!  “What?”  Your brain is screaming, “What do you mean?  Every trainer tells us to do this or do that.  They all teach us what to do and how to do it.”  “What do you mean that techniques don’t work?”


Techniques do not work


Techniques do not work unless your thinking is correct.  You can go through all of the motions of writing compelling advertising, placing ads in expensive target-oriented publications, and repeating the process for an extended period of time.  The secret is not the amount of money you spend, the number of publications you advertise in or even the ad you place.


So what is the secret?


It’s a Head Game


Until your thinking is correct, techniques will not work.  Your success plan starts in your head.


Kevin Trudeau tells a story of a successful man who taught a five day seminar.  The man taught joint-ventures, partnerships, communication, and marketing.  To the man’s amazement, none of the participants in the seminar had any measurable success.  “What is the problem?  I gave them the gold.  Why aren’t they succeeding?”  Techniques do not work until the mindset is correct.  The man did not realize that his thinking was correct; however, he only taught the techniques, not the correct thinking.


Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”  It is the thinking that makes it so.”  Your success plan must start in your thinking and your belief.


Writing advertising, selecting publications and spending money on marketing is a waste of time and money unless you believe that the advertising will work.  If you doubt that the ad will work, you are blocking your own success.  If you doubt that you have selected the right publication at the right time, you are blocking your own success.


Susanne and Rick Crawford are highly acclaimed network marketing trainers.  Susanne tells of placing Craig’s list ads over and over with little or no response.  She was told to give up and go on to something else.  She said, “I’m going to place one more ad.  I really believe this will work.”  Was that ad a rock star ad or a different town?  No.  The difference was that she really believed that the ad would work.  It did work.  It generated excellent response and resulted in three sales.  The only difference was her thinking.  She believed in herself and believed in the results she expected; the positive results materialized.  Your success plan starts in your head.


Success Plans Start in Your Head


Success is first and foremost a head game.


Earl Nightingale’s recording “The Strangest Secret” revealed that the strangest secret is that we receive what we think about most of the time.  It is the thinking that makes the difference.


When your thoughts are focused on a positive outcome, your belief is for a positive outcome and your actions are based on a positive outcome.  The result is a positive outcome.


When you doubt, you block your success.  Doubts create roadblocks to success.


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Emotional Success Plan

Devastating events do not define you; your reactions do.

Devastating events do not define you; your reactions do.

When life pushes your emotional buttons it is difficult to maintain a positive attitude.   That moment and several minutes or hours to follow can be at the top of the challenging scale.


My recent article in the Castle Rock Business Examiner portrays the devastation of Peyton Manning after the Broncos Super Bowl loss.  Our losses may not have been as widely publicized or received as much commentary in social media, broadcast media and living rooms, but they may be just as devastating.


Emotional Outlet


What do you do to revive your spirits after a particularly devastating event?




I am a physical person.  No, that does not mean throwing china or even kicking the dog.  Physical for me means going for a run, lifting weights at the gym, or renting the ball machine and hitting tennis balls.  Perhaps a bicycle ride, snow shoeing, or a long walk fits into your lifestyle more appropriately.  In earlier years aristocracy would go for a long walk and gaze at the landscape far away; looking at objects far away was reputed to increase the focus on the good elements in the future rather than the concerns of the moment.




Reading, listening to music or meditating have been known to soothe the spirits of the more gentle souls.  Writing in a journal is a suggestion.  Perhaps writing a long verbose, angry or highly emotional letter may be a satisfactory outlet.  Write until you have exhausted your stress and then crumple the paper or burn it may be your emotional outlet of choice.


Success plan


Once the initial emotional outlet has minimized some of the anguish, it is time to look ahead.  If the trauma was a job loss, it is time to analyze what you truly desire in the next position.


  1.  What did you really like about this or other previous employment situations?  Make a list of the aspects you liked the best and perhaps why you enjoyed those particular tasks.


  1.  What were the situations or tasks which you choose not to repeat?


  1. If you could design the ideal income opportunity for yourself, what would you include or exclude?


  1. Would you prefer an employment situation or a business of your own?


  1. What is most important to you – security, income potential, freedom, structure, variety, predictability, advancement potential or benefits?  Consider your interests, skills, long and short range desires, and your personal dreams and goals.



Never discount your dreams.  “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” stated Napoleon Hill.  The key is having a goal and believing in yourself and your ability to achieve it.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”  Both men encourage you to believe in yourself, believe in your dream and take the action to bring it into reality.

We all encounter emotional circumstances.  The key is to find an appropriate emotional outlet and proceed to construct and implement a success plan for the future.  You have the right to design and live the future you choose.  Regardless of your current situation, there is a desirable emotional outlet and an attractive option.  When you know the attractive option for you, create your success plan and take action to start implementing it.  It is your future; dare to dream and achieve.


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Elaine Love

Lois Elaine Love


3249 Country Club Parkway

Castle Rock, CO 80108

Home phone 303-284-0514





Utilize my vast business experience, management expertise and communication skills to assist an organization in developing or expanding its training program to develop professionals and future leaders.  Primary expertise: small business owner, presentation training, facilitating workshops and training programs, and speech coaching


Professional Experience:


Results For Life, LLC                                                                      2000 to present


Executive presentation coaching and private speech coaching to assist professionals and executives in making a positive impact on their business and motivate their employees.

Individual and group business presentation training.

Facilitate corporate and breakout workshop training in a variety of industries.

Keynote speaker for professional conferences and community events.


Mountain Castles, Inc.                                              November 1986 – October 2000

Originator, Owner, Broker, and CEO

Consultant to the purchaser                                        October 2000 – August 2001

Leading a successful customer-service oriented business from idea conception through implementation and increasingly successful execution.

Started Mountain Castles with $4937.32 capital and developed it into a corporation of slightly less than $1,000,000 gross annual sales in eleven years.

Mountain Castles sold October 10, 2000 with no debt. Retained full responsibility for auditing all accounts and preparing all tax reports with the exception of the annual corporate income tax reports.  Prepared all payroll and financial reports.


Candy Mountain Bakery                                         October 1981 – May 1986

Owner, Operator

Developed a small, heavily debt laden, donut counter into a full service bakery which supplied the continental breakfasts for the major lodges in Steamboat Springs. The bakery expanded significantly and sold with positive assets and no debts. Responsible for all financial reports including payroll and taxes.


March Tire, Inc.                                                        April 1975 – September 1981


Financial analysis and auditing of all five corporate locations. Collaborated in the initial development of Goodyear Tire and Rubber’s independent dealership computerized accounting system.  Assisted in growing March Tire, Inc. from one store to one of the largest chains of Goodyear dealerships in the Midwest.




Master of Special Studies in Applied Communication                  May 1997

University College at University of Denver, Denver, CO

Emphasis in Human Resources, Masters Capstone paper: Marketing Reservations for a Property Management Company on the Internet


Alternative Dispute Resolution Specialized Studies Certification   August 1998

University College, University of Denver, Denver, CO.


Real Estate Broker                                                                            November 1986

Colorado Real Estate Commission, Denver, CO


B.S.E.D., Kansas State College of Pittsburg, Pittsburg, KS

Outstanding Student of College Class Designation and Superior Student Designation.


Awards and Honors: 


Rotary Club of Castle Pines, President                                            2012-2013

District 5450 Paul Harris Society (Rotary International Foundation)         2013


Toastmasters International                                                             

Distinguished Toastmaster Twice                                           July 1, 2011 & 2012

Winner of 18 Speaking & Leadership trophies/awards in 4 years  2008-2011

District Toastmasters International Speech Contest winner  May 16, 2009


National Speakers Association, Professional status                         2012 – present


World Class Speech Coach Designation                                         September 2011


First Resort, Inc., Aspen, CO                                                           September 1997

Innovator of the Year, Property Management



Lift as You Climb                                                                               published 2011

Emotional Ice Water                                                                           published 2012

Now to WOW                                                                           to be published 2014


Marketing Reservations for Property Management on the Internet

Capstone Paper, University of Denver,                                              September 1997


“Gender Differences in Conflict Management Style in the Workplace”

Colorado Speech and Communication Association                           January 1967



Richard Hinkel, retired, VP HR, Homestake Mining, 623-388-6692,

Susan Wagers, Susan Wagers International Ltd., 303-284-0307,

Kathy Fortune, M.D., Forensic Medicine, 303-794-4112.

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