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Fun Facts – Toasts and More

You were just asked to present the toast at the company meeting.  My coaching client  asked me to

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write a few hints for presenting short speeches.

Public speaking is the number one fear.  I promise that speaking before a group is rarely, if ever, fatal.  Enjoy these keys, relax and have fun.


Mastering the Toast

Raising your glass and drinking a toast is participating in a custom which dates back to ancient times when Romans and Greeks drank a toast to their gods.  The Romans would toast their bread in the fire.  When the bread became too hard to chew, it was placed in the bottom of the wine keg to collect the sediments.  The “toast” concept evolved to include the drink in which the bread had been soaked and the person in whose honor the drink had been consumed.


The English gave the toast on bended knee, the Scotsmen stood on a chair with one foot on the table, the French introduced the custom of the bow, and Westerners touch the fullest part of the wine glasses.


Toasts refer to the occasion, the person and the speaker’s sentiment for the honoree.  Toasts can be serious, witty, sentimental or poetic.  The toast is praise as opposed to the roast which can be teasing or embarrassing.


A toast is a brief speech; typically it will be a minimum of one minute and can be as long as five minutes.  It contains an opening, a body and a conclusion.  It is to be appropriate in mood, language and degree of formality for the specific occasion.  Plan for success by writing out your comments in advance and practicing the delivery.



Presenting an Award

Refer to the occasion, the purpose of the award and the requirements or background qualifications necessary to be nominated for the award.  Emphasize the award is a symbol of the real appreciation of the contributions the recipient has made and the high regard in which the recipient is held.  Create a success plan by preparing your speech in advance and practicing.


Pay tribute to the recipient and mention the dedication or sacrifices made by the individual being honored.  Help the audience clearly understand why this person deserves the award.  Present with dignity and grace.  Keep the presentation to three to four minutes.  The star of the event should be the recipient, not the presenter.



Receiving an Award

Accepting an award graciously requires thought and preparation.  Sincerely display appreciation to the organization presenting the award and acknowledge the organization’s work and its importance.  Be modest and dignified.  A laconic statement such as “Thanks, but I really don’t deserve this” or “There are others who deserve this much more than I do” appear to be false modesty and degrade the presenting organization.  If there are one or two key people you wish to thank, you may use their names. Reading off a long list to the audience can not only become boring to the audience but it can increase the risk of one individual feeling left out of the appreciation; the award was presented to you, not a group of your friends.


If you know in advance that you have been nominated for an award, create a success plan by composing your remarks in advance and practicing their delivery.



Introduce the Speaker

The purpose of an introduction is to highlight the speaker.  Explain who the speaker is, the topic of the speech and why he or she is addressing the group on the selected subject.  Avoid reading off a long list of facts about the speaker’s life.  Some speakers will have a prepared introduction; be plan for success just in case they hand you a long bio or do not have any prepared statement.


If possible, you may do personal introductions of the speaker to various club members prior to the formal introduction to the group.


Plan for Success

By writing out your speech in advance and practicing the delivery of the remarks, you are creating a success plan which will take the pressure off of you and your audience.

Magic of Mindset

Think with passion

Focus on what you believe

“It’s all in your head.”  When this was first said, it was a criticism of my thinking.  Now results have shown that our thinking is truly the first step in making desires come true.  Your success plan starts with your thoughts.




A plethora of books have been written about positive mindset.  One of the first popular books on the subject was Norman Vincent Peale’s The Power of Positive Thinking in 1952.  Another noteworthy book was Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning which was first published in 1959.  More recent publications have been The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, The Magic of Believing by Claude M. Bristol and the delightfully whimsical Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach.  Dalai Lama, Louise L. Hay, Eckhart Tolle, Guy Kawasaki, Dale Carnegie and Dr. Wayne Dyer have all authored inspiration on the topic of a positive mindset.




Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”  Your success plan all comes down to your thoughts.  By thinking positive thoughts and believing that those positive mental images will materialize in your life, you significantly increase the probability that they will appear; you also increase the speed with which they appear.




Before any of the “how” techniques can be fully implemented, the mind must be focused and believe success is expected.  It is not a matter of thinking success is possible or even probable but that it truly is happening for you right now.  Believe that your success plan is already achieved.


We focus so much on the “how” that we talk ourselves out of believing that our dream can come true.  From the information currently on our radar screen, it may not seem possible that our dream could come true.  If the success plan is to get out of debt, lose fifty pounds or own the black Mercedes you have been obsessing over for the last few years, you may look at your current circumstances and say, “there is no way that will ever happen.”


Maybe your credit rating is in the “undesirable” range, you are out of a job and do not believe there is a job for you anywhere in the near future; the future looks bleak to pay off your maxed out credit cards.  Maybe you are sixty or seventy pounds overweight, no will power, tried every diet on the market and love to eat; losing weight does not seem possible.  You get the idea.


Are you still asking “how?”  Think about what you truly want.  You will receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  Whatever you really, really, really want, you will get.  Whatever you really, really, really don’t want, you will get that also.  If your goal is to get out of debt and you keep thinking “no more debt, I must get out of debt,” you are focusing on debt.  Instead change your constant thought to “positive cash flow” or “abundant income” or “money always flows to me.”  All of these thoughts focus on money coming to you.


Subtle Mindset Shift


Start with a subtle mindset shift.  Start with something you really believe can come true.  Start with something as simple as “For the next thirty minutes, I choose to eat only healthy foods.”  When you have succeeded at one small positive step, your confidence will go up.  Decide to do one positive step toward your goal every day.  One day you may choose to take a walk.  Another day may be to take a drive to keep yourself away from the refrigerator.


Find a picture of a person who looks slightly smaller than you are and add your face to the image.  Select easy, believable steps which you can and will do.  As you succeed at smaller steps, you will gradually believe you can and will succeed at larger steps.  When you think success, feel what it feels like to be successful and believe you can be, are and will continue to be successful; you will succeed.  Give your success plan a fighting chance by focusing on something you truly desire and can believe you will receive.


Napoleon Hill, “What the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve.”


Success is yours when you think success, feel success and believe you can succeed.


Focus more on your mindset and how you feel rather than how it will actually happen.


How will you know you are focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want?  If you are focusing on what you want and believing that you will receive it, you will feel good.


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Priority Management

Priority management is more critical than time management.  How so you ask?

Time or Priority Management

How we use our time determines our future results

Jim Rohn, noted business philosopher, remarked that the poor man and the rich man each have exactly the same number of hours each day.  Obviously it is not the number of hours available but rather the use of those hours which makes the difference.

Recreation time measured by the calendar or the watch

One person may choose to work exactly the number of hours required and take all allowable breaks.  They may choose to watch television for entertainment for several hours each evening.

Another person may choose to perform his/her duties at work and seek to help others or learn from others when he/she has completed his/her assigned tasks.  This same person may take a night class, read books or listen to educational, informational or inspirational audios in the evening or while driving to and from work.

Is this time management?  Perhaps, but it is more likely priority management.  One is seeking a steady diet of relaxing entertainment in the evening while the other is seeking knowledge to advance.  Everyone needs an occasional break to recharge their mental batteries; the length of time devoted to the “break” is the key.  Is the break an hour a week, an hour a day or eight hours a day?

Time management or Priority management

Each person has the opportunity to determine their own goals and use their time accordingly; goals are either set on purpose or by default there are no goals.   It has long been said that a person’s priorities can be determined by looking at their appointment calendar and their checkbook; look at where their time is spent each day and how they spend their money.  What does your time and money say about you?

When you honestly review your daily activities, in which quadrant is most of your time spent?

                                       Urgent                                                                       Urgent

                                   Important                                                          Not Important


                                 Not Urgent                                                                Not Urgent

                                 Important                                                              Not Important

Being able to perfectly balance your time, your priorities and your life is mission impossible.  Coming closer than you are currently is absolutely realistic and probably desirable.

The family, career, social life, community service and personal time all vie for each waking hour.  Determining the best use of your time is a constant evaluation.  One of the ways which works best for me is basing each decision on “Will this take me closer to my goal or further from my goal?”  At least 90 percent of the decisions should take me closer to my goal.  Your percentage will be based on the importance of your goals and the speed with which you plan to achieve them.  Your priorities will ultimately determine your time usage and your results.

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Thoughts Control Results

Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Think with passion

Focus on what you believe

Positive thoughts which you truly believe will come true, do come true.  If you think positive thoughts and truly believe, you project a vibration which draws positive results to you.

When you are obsessed with achieving your goals, you think about success the majority of the time.  When you are that obsessed with success, the action naturally flows.  It does not feel like work, it feels natural to take action.

Until you think you can achieve success, believe you can achieve it and take action, you will slow your positive results.

Napoleon Hill, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Always focus on the positive.  Focus on what you want.  Focus on feeling good.  It works.


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It’s in Your Head

“It’s all in your head.” How many times have you heard that or even said that to others?  The implication


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was that it was strictly your imagination rather than having any factual basis.


Would it surprise you to know that the answers are truly inside you?  Yes, they are; however not in the manner implied in the statement above.




The answers are in your thoughts and feelings.  The answers are in your burning desire.  What is it that is so important to you that you can keep yourself from doing it?  In network marketing, that burning desire is known as your “why.”  Why will you persist until successful?  Why will you keep going when it would be so much easier to give up?  Why will you keep pushing and trying one thing after another until you discover the secret to your specific goals?


Regardless of whether it is a health goal, relationship goal or a financial goal, the importance of the “why” is critical.


Thoughts and Feelings


Your “why” is also known as your burning desire or your passion.  All of these imply a strong desire, not a “ho hum, if I get it fine and if not, fine” attitude.  With a casual attitude, very little will be accomplished.  Only with passion, determination and purpose will major goals be reached.  Some say that a burning desire can overcome intelligence and many other “so called” advantages.  Passion feeds the determination to keep going.


Where does passion come from?  Passion is derived from your thoughts and feelings.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.”  Your thoughts are tied to your belief in your success.  Your thoughts control your feelings.


Have you ever ignored the supposed logic because you had a feeling that it was the right thing to do?  That feeling has also been called intuition.


It’s all in your head


Yes, it is all in your head.  It starts with your thoughts.  It follows with your feelings and settles into your core as your passion, your “why.”  When your thoughts align with your good feelings and your passion, you can accomplish anything you choose.


Have questions about maximizing your energy and potential productivity?  Let me help.  Join me at or  Hire Elaine Love as your coach and as the keynote speaker or workshop leader for your next event.  Whether you are seeking to improve your career situation, personal life or gain more expertise with effective persuasion, hiring a coach will assist you.  Time is slipping away, live the life you are destined to live.


Lessons from Plants

Plants are like people; they don’t like change.  Plants and people resist change even when the change can be in their best interest.  Plants have so many lessons to teach humans.  “What?”



Beauty of a rose

Plants teach people health and beauty


Think about what plants need.


  1.  Light.  Plants like varying degrees of light and sunshine; however they all require some light to grow and thrive.


  1. Water.  Without any water, plants will wither.  Just try neglecting houseplants for a few weeks when you are out of town and they will look very sad on your return home.  Ask any farmer who does not have an irrigation system during a period of zero rainfall.


  1. Food.  Plants draw nutrients from the soil, fertilizer, and plant food.  The leaves on my numerous houseplants grow smaller when they do not receive nourishment for a long period of time.


Each summer, the larger geranium pots leave the comfort of the bay windows and travel outside to the deck to bask in the warm rays of summer sunshine.  Admittedly, they do complain when they encounter an unwelcome hail storm or intense wind.  They have a right to be upset.  The marvel is that they all recover, expand and flourish beyond their original magnificent blooming mass.




By early October, their leaves are starting to shiver in the evening and it is time to readjust to the inside atmosphere.


Plants respond with yellow leaves and sometimes with an unexpected cricket nesting in the plant.  That is undoubtedly a surprise to the plant, cricket and myself; we all adjust.  If possible, the cricket gets transported back outside.


Plants readjust and thrive to bloom and flourish all winter.


Plants and People


Light – Throughout all of documented history, highly successful people have walked outside.  Being outside in the fresh air, moving and gazing far away has been a common behavior pattern of highly successful people.  There is something about the sun’s rays which warm not only the body but also the soul and the creative instinct.  The one exception which comes to mind was Howard Hughes; if you recall, he had become such a hermit that when he passed away the Treasury Department had to confirm his identity with fingerprints.  People need light, preferably natural light outside.


Highly successful people recognize the value of light, fresh air, and exercise as important contributing factors to fresh ideas.


Water – The average human body is 57 to 60 percent water.  According to the Mayo Clinic, your body depends on water to flush toxins from vital organs and carry nutrients to your cells, especially the ears, nose and throat.  Lack of water can lead to dehydration and loss of energy.  Can you really afford to deplete your energy? Personally high energy allows me to accomplish my daily tasks, both personally and professionally.


How much water do you need?  Exercise, climate and your individual body determine the ideal amount of water for you.  Every day our bodies lose water through breathing, perspiring and bodily elimination.  The average recommended intake for men is thirteen cups per day; the average recommended intake for women is nine cups per day.  Nine cups equals two quarts plus one eight ounce cup.  Thirteen cups equals three quarts plus one eight ounce cup.  The commonly reported recommendation is eight 8 ounce glasses of water per day which equals two quarts. The amount is probably because eight times eight is easy to remember.


This is also why it is so important to have fresh clean water available to people all over the world.


Food – The value of nutrition cannot be underestimated.  Nutrition companies, juice drinks, vitamins, and whole food supplement products flood the market and permeate the air waves on a daily basis.  This cures belly fat and that cures overweight or loss of energy or loss of sexual prowess.  Pills, juices, lotions and potions flood the market.  Why?  It sounds as if people would rather take a chemical substitute rather than eat properly.  The debate on organic verses genetically modified is another issue.


The one common factor is that all agree on the importance of proper nutrition.  The difference is how they recommend that people ingest that nutrition.


Just as plants need nutrition, so do humans.  Malnutrition statistics by country range from 53.3 percent to zero.  United States is one percent; there are 49 countries with a better rating than the United States.  It is shocking to know that Greece, United Kingdom, Russia, Poland, Germany New Zealand, Switzerland, Ireland, Norway, South Korea, Australia, Hungary, Iceland, Bulgaria, Canada, Cuba, Viet Nam, Japan, Costa Rica, Portugal, Belgium, and Sweden all rank better than United States; we are reportedly the richest nation and yet we have deaths from malnutrition.




Plants resist change.  Humans seem to resist it more and we possess the power and ability to execute change.  Highly successful people welcome change.


If these facts on light, water and nutrition did not receive your attention to the need to change our behavior, what will it take?  Plants have lessons to teach people about how to be healthy, thriving and beautiful.  Plants can rebound from nature’s storms, insufficient water or poor nutrition, so can people.  We have the intelligence to make wise choices with our light, water and nutrition.  We can change.  We can be healthy, productive and flourishing.  Highly successful people make a choice followed by action.


Have questions about maximizing your energy and potential productivity?  Let me help.  Join me at or  Hire Elaine Love as your coach and as the keynote speaker or workshop leader for your next event.  Whether you are seeking to improve your career situation, personal life or gain more expertise with effective persuasion, hiring a coach will assist you.  Time is slipping away, live the life you are destined to live.

Create Your Results

You are responsible for your results.  I hear your brain protesting.  “What, I didn’t want to lose my

Thinking positive healing thoughts as I send the bear to a sick child.

Thinking positive healing thoughts as I send the bear to a sick child.

job.”  ‘I didn’t want to get that traffic ticket.”


No, you probably did not want a traffic ticket, trouble at work or even to stub your toe.  What you were thinking about was giving you the same feeling as the events which actually did occur.  You created the feelings with your thoughts and those feelings caused events in your life which matched the feelings you were thinking.


Good News


If you could create negative events with negative feelings, you can also create good events with good feelings.  It is the good feeling you wish to create.  Your objective is always to feel good or at least feel better than you did previously.  Thinking about what you truly want and feeling good is a solid indication that you are moving toward your desired goal.




What you really, really, really want, you will get.  What you really, really, really don’t want you will also receive.  How can that be true?  You will receive more of whatever you give your time, energy and focus.  The Law of Attraction reminds us that “what we think about, we bring about.”


The same message has been stated in many different forms.

“What you focus on expands.”

“Whatever you focus on is what you get; negative or positive, so focus on the positive and you’ll bring more positive into your life.”


Concentrate your thoughts on what you truly want.  Your thoughts can create your present and your future.  Create what you truly want.


What do you want?


Do you want more money?  Focus your thoughts on abundance and money flowing in to you.  If you focus on “no more debt” or “no more bills” or “no more unexpected expenses,” you will receive more debt, more bills and more expenses.  Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.


If you think, “I’m tired of being overweight” or “I’m tired of having to struggle to zip my jeans,” you are focusing your thoughts and energy on being overweight and struggling to zip your jeans.  Instead focus on being slim, trim and healthy.


Focus on what you want rather than what you do not want.


What do you have to lose?


Concentrate on positive thoughts all of the time.  Every time a negative or “not” thought tries to rear its ugly head, pounce on it with a positive thought.


Start with fifteen minutes and only allow positive thoughts.  Gradually work up to longer and longer times.  You will catch yourself smiling and feeling good.


What if something bad happens?


If something which appears to be bad happens, think “What good can come from this?”

Recently I was at a speaking engagement.  The engagement was at a large technical school campus.  I parked and wandered around the campus for a while attempting to locate the meeting room.  After the speak engagement, I once again wandered around searching for my car.  After the long drive home and putting away my materials, I noticed my wrist watch was gone.  The watch was purchased several years ago when I was visiting my son in Switzerland; the watch had real value and sentimental value.  None of my searches produced the watch.


Choices: Feel sorry for myself and moan about the loss or adopt the attitude of “What good can come from this?” Still not certain what the good will be; however, my attitude of “everything always works out” will once again prove true.  Something good will come from the situation.

I may have accidentally created my results by being anxious about being late to speak.  It is a lesson to me to continue to be vigilant to always think positive no matter what is happening.


Focus on “What good can come from this?” and something good will materialize.


Always focus on the positive.  Focus on what you want.  Focus on feeling good.  It works.


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Think First

“It’s all in your head.  What are you thinking?”  How many times has someone criticized you and told you

Believe in your vision of the future and take action to make it great.

Believe in your vision of the future and take action to make it great.

that you either weren’t thinking or you were thinking all wrong.  You may have been told that it was just a crazy notion in your head.


It may have been an idea in your head, but not the way they were implying.  Would it surprise you to know that all great achievements start as an idea?  Yes, all great businesses and even all inventions start as an idea.


Bill Gates


Bill Gates created an empire with Microsoft.  He started with an idea.  His view of the computer industry was vast.  He saw where the industry could go, what it could become, and took action.  Other people realized that computers had the potential to change the way we transmit information.  The difference is that Bill Gates not only grasped the vision but took action to bring that vision into reality.  A multi-billion dollar industry started with an idea and expanded into a long range vision.  The idea was the seed.  It was taking the action to do something with the seed which created the magnificent enterprise we now enjoy.


Bill said, “Other people saw the potential of computers.  I took action.”


Napoleon Hill


Andrew Carnegie, the richest man in America at that time, commissioned Napoleon Hill to interview the world’s richest and most successful leaders.  The initial publication was 15 different manuscripts given to top contributors in 1925.  The first book, released in 1928, was titled The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons.  The manuscripts are reported to be even more powerful than the book.  Napoleon later released his popular Think and Grow Rich.


When Andrew Carnegie originally commissioned Napoleon Hill to this monumental task, he offered letters of introduction to influential individuals but no compensation to Napoleon Hill.  To make matters even more intense, Carnegie asked Napoleon to dedicate 20 years to the project.  Carnegie sat with his stopwatch giving Napoleon only 60 seconds to make his decision.  Consider the project, the potential and decide quickly.  Create an idea in your mind, decide quickly and take action quickly.  Napoleon Hill took action in 27 seconds.


How would you have responded to such a challenge?  Would you dedicate 20 years of your life to a project for which you would receive zero compensation?  The potential benefit was the information you would learn from these mega successful individuals.


Out of the 3,000 interviews conducted, 500 were used in the books.  Napoleon Hill took action.


Steve Jobs


In the now famous 2005 Stanford commencement address, Jobs delivered what could be the best career advice ever given.  “You’ve got to find what you love… Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”


When Jobs first purchased Pixar in 1986, he told John Lasseter, a budding computer animation artist, to “make it great.”  That advice led Lasseter to the first academy award for computer animation and later to his position as Disney’s chief animator.


The Hit Man


15 time Grammy winner David Foster is known as The Hit Man for all of the recording hit songs he has written and produced.  In his Success magazine cover story of September 2009 when he handed his first cd to his mentor, he apologized for a couple of the tracks not being quite right for one reason or another.  His mentor handed it back and said, “Whose name is on the cover?”  From that day forward, David focused on the goal to “make it great” for everything he produced.


In order to be truly satisfied with your work, it must be work you are proud to associate with your name.  Unless you take pride in your work to make it great, no one else will be proud of it either.  Focusing on doing really great work, dedicating your life to the pursuit of really great work and you will be proud to associate your name with the result.


It all starts with your thoughts.  Think in terms of great work and strive to produce really great work.  Create an idea, decide quickly, take action quickly and make it great.


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