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C Your Success

When you “C” your success, you visualize a positive future.  You see the future you desire

Positive Mental Attitudes yield Positive Results

Positive Mental Attitudes yield Positive Results

to be living. I hear your mind saying, “I still don’t get the C.”


The C’s are clarity, competence, confidence, and completion.




Until you are absolutely clear about what you want, how can anyone else possibly be clear about how to help you achieve it?


How many people have you known who dabble in this and that and never really focus on anything?  Nellie Networker sells real estate, a skin care line and a healthy chocolate.  She says, “They told me to diversify my income.”  The only part of her efforts which seems to be clear is that she wants to be in business and make money.   As long as she is scattered in three entirely different directions, the odds of establishing a brand identity and sufficient focus to be successful in any of the three businesses is remote.


Polly Planner has also diversified into writing articles on skin care, teaching workshops on skin care and selling skin care products.  All three of her endeavors are laser focused on one specific area.  Building her brand as a skin care professional is clear.




Polly reads books, attends seminars, and masterminds with industry leaders in the skin care field.  With only one area to study and present, it is much easier for her to increase her industry knowledge and stay current on new developments.


As her industry knowledge increases and she gains experience presenting her expertise, her confidence grows.




As confidence increases, the enthusiasm and eagerness to present to others also expands.  This delightful chain reaction also intensifies the desire to learn more.  More knowledge increases competence.  Polly’s laser focus on skin care depicts clarity of purpose.  With clarity comes increased competence and increased confidence.




Knowledge without follow through is of minimal value to anyone else.


The cover lines on the book Emotional Ice Water are “It’s not what they say or do.  It’s what YOU think, feel and do.”  Whether we are speaking of the actions of others or our own actions, it all comes down to taking personal responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.


Clarity allow for the opportunity to gain competence.  With clarity and competence we can develop the confidence to share our knowledge with others.  All of the clarity, competence and confidence in the world is still ineffective until we complete the “C” chain and take action to follow the process through to completion.


“C” your future clearly and take the action to make that clarity, competence, and confidence result in a positive difference in the lives of others.  Complete the “C” circle.


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Leadership is Earned Through Performance

Leadership is Earned Through Performance

Empower others with your thoughts and actions.  Regardless of your economic status, educational status or career, everyone responds favorably to kind words.  Empowering others benefits both the giver and the receiver.


Toastmasters is a speaker’s organization.  Picture a new speaker hesitantly rising and making the eternally long walk from their chair to the podium for their ice breaker speech.  Walking those eight to ten feet feels like a marathon distance.  Facing the group for the first time as the spotlight centers on them causes every internal butterfly to fly in a different direction.  Butterflies rarely settle into formation for the ice breaker speech.  Gripping the podium with a death grip and hiding behind it with notes shaking has been known to happen to more than one newbie.  Four to six minutes may feel like a lifetime.  The custom is to give a standing ovation after an ice breaker.


Watching this new speaker emerge and stand confidently and relaxed in front of the group during future speeches thrills both the speaker and the audience.  Empowering someone to learn a new skill and progress rewards the entire membership.  Feedback after each speech, evaluation, emphasizes all of the strong points and encourages slight areas on improvement.  Empowering someone to build on their strengths and develop new skills rewards the evaluator as well as the speaker.


Butterflies gradually learn to fly in formation.  Leadership is empowering others.  As a leader you have the opportunity to guide and empower others to develop current talents to new heights.  The greatest joy for a leader is seeing others grow and blossom.


True leadership can be related to the size of the empowerment desired.  A brief word feels like a helicopter, just a touch and go.  It comes and goes in a flash.  Investing a little more time and effort feel like a STOL port, a short take off and landing runway.  Major ventures require a runway similar to the size required for a 747.  Mentoring and empowering someone from infancy to maturity in a sport or career requires a 747 runway.


Empowerment can be a 20 yard sprint, a 5K run or a marathon.  Whether you choose to invest your time and effort for a brief start and stop, 3.1 miles or 26 miles all depends upon the impact you desire to provide.


Empowerment, like inspiration, motivation or education, must find a willing receiver.  Our job as leaders is to provide the empowerment.  The receiver’s role is to be open minded enough to accept the encouragement and take action.


A college professor once told a young student, “You can have ten years experience or one year’s experience ten times.”  The professor, like the mentor or evaluator in a business or a social organization, provides the encouragement and empowerment along with suggestions for growth and improvement.  The student must also be willing to receive and take action.  Without receiving and taking action, the words are leaves blowing in the wind.


Effective leadership is empowerment.  Few things warm the heart of a leader more than seeing someone respond in a positive way to growth potential.


Examine your leadership skills and practices.  Are you a helicopter, a small private plane or a 747?  What is the scope of your mentorship?  How long a runway do you require to launch your program?  Leadership is empowering.


Select your candidates carefully.  Select those who will be receptive to growing to their potential.  Empower those who are ready, willing and eager to accept the challenge.


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Add Value to Achieve Greater Abundance

Jim RohnJim Rohn, noted business philosopher, said “Work harder on yourself than you do on your business.”


Emotional health, physical health and business success are a three legged stool.  Eliminate any one of the three and the stool collapses.  Without a positive attitude of service to something greater than ourselves, we become shallow and off balance.  By adding value to others, we make a difference in their lives and in our own life.


Our attitude shines through in our thoughts, words and deeds.  Negative or challenging situations enter our life on a far too regular basis.  How we handle those situations internally and externally makes the difference between the successful and the unsuccessful.


I recently had bone grafts to replace major bone loss in my face.  I was sequestered for over a week lying down with ice bags on my entire face for 15-20 minutes every hour day after day.  It left far too much time to think and not enough to produce.  There was a choice of feeling sorry for myself or using the time in a more positive way.  Obviously working out was forbidden and frankly, I did not feel like it anyway.  My treat was a dear friend, fellow Rotarian, who brought a smoothie or soup to me every evening.  Be grateful for small pleasures.  She went out of her way to bring a nourishing treat every evening for a week.  She added value to my life with a gesture of kindness.


Emotional health is the attitude we choose in situations.  I could be mopey and feel sorry for myself or I could choose to relax, meditate and create.  We can choose to criticize, complain and cry or we can choose to bring ourselves up by bringing others up.  Who do you know who would benefit from a text, a call, an email or a face-to-face smile?  Take the time to contact three people to send a ray of sunshine into their day.  It is free.  There is no cost to you, only tremendous value to them.


When we feel better about ourselves, we perform better at work and at everything else.


We have all attended goal setting and probably even goal achieving sessions.  Do a subtle mindset shift and forget about goals.  Instead of concentrating on goals, concentrate on constant growth.


John Maxwell, acclaimed as the #1 leadership expert in America said, “When I started learning to grow I thought it would take a year, maybe two.  At the end of the first year, I discovered that by focusing my energy on continuing to grow personally and professionally, I surpassed all my goals and continued to excel beyond my wildest expectation.”  He discovered that the only way to continually grow is to grow intentionally.


We all have flashes of accidental growth, but in order to continue to grow, we must grow intentionally.


How do you grow intentionally?  You surround yourself with great people who are growing intentionally.


You read good books: Andy Andrews “The Travelers Gift;” Napoleon Hill “Think and Grow Rich:” Stephen Covey “The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People;” Norman Vincent Peale “The Power of Positive Thinking,” and Emotional Ice Water.


Charlie Tremendous Jones said, “You will be the same person five years from now that you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.”


I have recommended reading lists.  Email me.  I am happy to send them.


Another suggestion is to subscribe to Success magazine and Success book summaries.  Both publications have an enclosed cd which you can, and I do, play in your car.  Be a continual and intentional learner.


Why is it so important to continue to learn and grow?  Once again, Jim Rohn said, “Formal education will make you a living, self-education will make you rich.”  “If you want to earn more, you must become more.”


Everything comes back to intentional personal growth.


When you grow continually and become more valuable, you have more to give to others around you.  The more value you provide to others, the more value you add to their life.  What is life really all about but to add value to others and make a difference?


Bonus:  The more value you add to others, the more abundance flows back to you.  This works in business with customers, employees and the one who serves your morning coffee.


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